Coach Legend: Are You Really in a Relationship? See the 5 Kinds of Relationship You May Be Into

Are You Really in a Relationship? The 5 Kinds of Relationship You May Be Into

It’s been said that ‘Love becomes a complicated business transaction when two people who have conflicting ideas about each other pretend to be in love’. In case you are looking for the author of that quote, it’s yours truly.

What most people call relationship today can simply be named something else. In some relationships,

Let me tell you today for free the 5 kinds of relationship that exist which you may be practicing without knowing:

1. Friends with Benefit

What do you call a relationship you have with the opposite sex who has not asked you to be his woman or man but is having sex with you. Since it is not prostitution, it is definitely ‘friends with benefit’.

For some, he has asked you out but he never promised you marriage but he’s licking your honey, I must tell you that what you are having is not a marriage-bound relationship but friends with benefit.

I am not telling you that you are wrong, I am only here to help you clarify your relationship to see if what you are having is what you really desire and deserve.

Many people languish in this type of relationship and are expecting marriage. Sadly, it doesn’t happen for most because the intention here (even though unspoken many times) is just sex and fun.

1. Lovers by Condition

This is one of the most silly types of relationship people have. They are lovers because of a certain condition and usually it always has to be because of someone or something else.

You are together because of what you are getting financially or sexually, because your parent say so or because if you break up, you will break her heart.

Your decision to be together is not because you both see a future for yourself but because it’s something that you have to do.

1. Friendship

When you have given your promise of love to someone and has also given same to you but marriage isn’t the end goal.

In this relationship, you both call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend and both care deeply for yourself and you are not having sex.

Sometimes, you are not even sure the person is the type you want to be married to.

At other times, you have both never spoken about marriage or when you do, it’s easily brushed aside, what you are having is simple Friendship. You are not in a relationship.i

1. Relationship

This is the real deal and it’s the least being practised by people.

Relationship is the verbal and non-verbal commitment of love made to each other with marriage as the end goal from day one.

In this relationship, you call yourself boo and bae or even boyfriend and girlfriend like the others but beyond this, you discuss your future. You talk about your marriage, your wedding, your parents, your children and your deepest dreams.

Here you are looking out for each other and not holding anything back from each other because you know that it’s only a matter of time, you will soon be bound to this person in marriage.

Love is a beautiful thing but when two people meet and fall in love, it’s pertinent to know that if this love will continue to be beautiful, marriage should be the end goal.

1. Marriage

This is the moment you have taken the bold and audacious step to say ‘this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with’. Then, you take it a step further by getting legally joined together.

Marriage is not for boys and girls who are yet to be weaned from mama’s breast. It is not a vacation you take for one year or two years. It is a lifetime commitment to love one person more than every other.

Marriage is not living together. Even if you live together for 100 years and you have not made a legal commitment to each other, you are not married.

What you have just read is a Gabriel Olatunji-Legend thought and idea as a practicing online relationship coach and counselor. To get notifications about more of his free life changing teachings, subscribe below.