After a breakup with someone you love, there’ll be times you’ll want to know if the relationship is finally over. You may want to know if your ex hasn’t moved on; if there’s a chance the two of you might get back together.
If you ask him directly, he might leave you more confused with his words and actions. You want to be sure he has moved on so you can get over him and get on with your life. Men are very good at sending mixed signals because although, women break up harder, men break up longer.
In the process of getting over an ex after a breakup, a woman will allow herself to feel all of her painful emotions, talk with her close friends, spend time analyzing what happened in the relationship, and remembering the good times. The process is painful, but it helps women gain both emotional clarity and closure.
Men, on the other hand, will most probably bury their feelings and just move on without dealing with the emotions.
For instance, men may make a deliberate effort to start dating immediately. They will procrastinate processing the breakup and the relationship. To be sincere, your boyfriend doesn’t know if he is truly ready to move on or not.
According to a study conducted by researchers from Binghamton University and University College London, women experience more emotional pain following a breakup, but they also recover more completely.
“While breakups hit women the hardest emotionally and physically, women tend to recover more fully and come out emotionally stronger. Men, on the other hand, never fully recover; they simply move on.
Our society teaches women to be comfortable experiencing and expressing their feelings. However, men are taught from childhood to “man up.”
A man, even when he is hurting, is expected to appear strong and in control, as well as to retain his independence without asking for help. This is the reason men will not only take longer to heal from heartbreak, but they are also more likely to engage in destructive behavior along the way.
Does all of this mean that your ex-boyfriend will eventually come back? Not necessarily.
But if you miss him and want to be together again, here are 7 signs your ex he hasn’t moved on from you.
1. He’s already in a new (rebound) relationship.
You have learned that your ex-boyfriend is already in another relationship. How is this possible? Could he really move on that quickly?
Experts indicate that rebound relationships are common after breakups. The whole point of a rebound relationship is to fill the void that is left after a painful breakup.
Your ex can get into a rebound relationship even when he is still in love with you. There are a number of pointers that would help you figure out whether your boyfriend’s new relationship is genuine or a rebound.
Has he started dating really fast after the breakup? If the two of you have only been broken up for a couple of weeks and he is already dating again, the chances are that he is on a rebound and he is still into you.
2. He’s dating someone who is your opposite.
Experts indicate that sometimes, exes try to overcompensate for the pain of a breakup by finding someone who is nothing like their ex.
If your ex-boyfriend’s new girl is nothing like you, chances are that this is a big sign that he is still into you but he is trying to use the new girl to get over you.
3. His social media activity is busy.
Does he stalk your social media? If your ex-boyfriend combs through your social media commenting, sharing things you post and liking your posts, these are signs that he might still have feelings for you.
He would not monitor your social media content if he wasn’t. Guys do not invest their time and energy into things that do not mean much to them.
Does he post an excessive amount of party pictures? He feels that he must capture all the “fun” events and he’s blowing up his social media accounts because he has not moved on. Your ex is trying too hard to show you that he has “moved on” and he is “over you,” even though his actions clearly indicate otherwise.
But if your ex has unfollowed and unfriended your social media accounts, it means that he is trying to move on and he doesn’t want you in his life by following the no contact rule.
Many times, staying connected on social media could be unhealthy because it leaves doors open to communication and makes it hard for both of the exes to find closure. Also, if there is no change in his social media activity, it could indicate that he is handling the breakup in a mature manner and is clearly moving on with his life; it is only a matter of time.
4. He hasn’t returned your things.
Many gifts and items were probably exchanged in the cause of the relationship. Do you still have a lot of your ex-boyfriend’s belongings?
If your ex is not completely over you, he will choose not to retrieve his things so that he can have an excuse to come for them at another time. As long as there are items that belong to him in your house, this is a strong sign that the two of you will always have unfinished business.
If your ex-boyfriend gave you back all your things, and returned your gifts after the breakup, and collected his items, this is his way of telling you that he is serious about moving on.
5. He’s staying the same.
If you pay attention and realize that your ex-boyfriend is trying new things and having new experiences, you must admit that he is moving on with his life.
Is he learning a new language? Traveling more? It clearly tells you that your boyfriend is moving on. He wants a life that nudges him out of his comfort zone and daily routine.
Does he look different? Did he get a new haircut or dye his hair? Is he dressing differently? You can see he is deliberately building a new life and you need to understand that he is moving on.
6. He’s not moving on.
Moving on does not always have to be symbolic. Sometimes, people can physically move on after a breakup, especially if the ex-couples worked in the same place or they have mutual friends.
If he moves away, this is a big deal. The long distance means that he is not planning to get back together because he doesn’t see you in his future.
7. He’s still in touch.
Are you guys still texting and calling each other just like old times? Does he call to check on you and ask how your day was? This is one of the biggest signs that he probably misses you and is not over you.
But if he’s cut off all contact, he doesn’t want to stay in touch at all. It’s over. If he avoids going to places where you might be, even places where he would typically want to go to, he is trying hard to ensure that the two of you have no reason to connect again.
LAST LOVE TIP
After reading, you should be able to tell now if your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you. You need to answer the most important question though; Do you want him back?
There was a reason the relationship didn’t work out the first time around and you both had to break up. Can you work on what led to the breakup or should you stay apart?
So, even if he wants you back, you’ll need to answer these questions: Should you make a move to get him back or end the relationship once and for all? Answer this and you’re ready.