We all have mistakes we make that are related to the way we see and interact with the world around us, regardless of gender. The good news for men is that, if you really do want to know how to do better, many of your challenges could be avoided by becoming more conscious of common differences in the way men and women navigate the world.
There are so many ways that otherwise good people mess up what could be healthy relationships. And many of the things guys do wrong in relationships come from a simple lack of awareness of how women process feelings and information.
The good news is that, if you see yourself in some of the examples below, you can turn it all around if you’re willing to make an effort.
Here are the 10 most common mistakes men make in relationships:
- You don’t bring her presence.
Do you realize how good it feels to be on top of your game? You are fully aware of who you are and what you desire. It’s a fantastic feeling and women, adore and desire it even more than you do. It gives them a sense of security and protection since she knows you’ve got what it takes to be her rock.
Similarly, every time you act unsure, afraid, or hesitant, you disrupt that connection and lose her attractiveness. Guys, this is a big one. It has the power to make or break you.
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You don’t understand women.
Women navigate the world through their emotions, therefore they may appear to be all over the place at times: happy one minute, rage the next. That may be difficult to comprehend because we guys operate on logic.
When you realize that her feelings aren’t annoying interruptions, but rather a welcome distraction that actually brightens your world and provides you with the best things in life like passion, fun, and excitement, you’ll discover how she improves your life every day. If you approach it this way, you’ll have fresh respect for all the treasures your lady has to offer.
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You are scared of or intimidated by her.
Guys tend to want to be in control and the truth of the matter is women are all about flow and their flow can’t effectively be controlled long-term either. Tougher guys than you have tried to control it but it doesn’t work. A smart man knows how to channel that energy instead.
Sometimes it’s like a storm. It can be a perfectly beautiful day, and the next thing you know, the clouds appear, the skies get dark and all hell breaks loose. Rather than controlling it, you ride it out, respect it, and know it is all part of the cycle of life. The good news is that on the other side of the storm, the sun comes back out, and life is beautiful again.
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You don’t make her your priority.
Women respond to adoration and praise. She needs your love and attention. A compliment and the fact that you’re focused on her will light her up from the inside and you will get to bask in the glow of her beautiful glow.
Remember, any time you fail to make her feel special and put something or someone else ahead of her for an extended time, trouble is definitely brewing.
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You’re oblivious to her feelings.
Now that you know that women navigate the world via emotion, you’ll need to learn to become consciously aware of how that works or you will struggle in relationships with women. Those are your choices, so choose carefully.
Understand that you don’t need to fix her emotions. They don’t need to be fixed, even though we all think we need to fix problems. You just have to notice them, acknowledge them, and ride them out with her while you support her.
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You didn’t build trust or you broke it.
This is an area where men struggle quite a bit due to several factors. We’re logical while they’re emotional, so most men tend to be way less committed, especially early on. However, she thinks she’s in a relationship far sooner than you do because she processes emotionally. That combination of logic and lack of early commitment often leads to men looking at other options rather quickly.
Whatever factors may exist, the fact remains that trust is critical for a great relationship. Once it’s compromised or even threatened, it is difficult for two parties to regain it. So whenever possible, I urge you to proceed in this area with caution.
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You’re unbalanced and made her feel unsafe.
This is the other side of the presence I talked about in number one. As good as a strong, present man can be, an unbalanced guy who’s all over the place can be a huge turn-off, and for good reason.
Women’s number one need at all costs is to feel safe. She can’t feel safe at all if she’s with a guy that she can push around. She may act like she wants to call the shots herself all the time the truth is, it is absolutely exhausting for her to take control for that long.
Do both of you a favour and step up into being the kind of man she can rely on to look after what’s best for both of you. Trust me, if you do this, you’ll both thank me for it.
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You’re too self-absorbed.
Men often believe they display their value through their ability to solve problems and fix things. As a result, their needs are often met on the most consistent basis through their professional lives.
In fact, one of the biggest red flags of a relationship in trouble is a man who spends a lot of time at work and this is not because he may be having an affair but simply because his needs are being met primarily in the sphere of work and not in his relationship.
As I said in mistake number four, any time you put work or anything else ahead of your relationship for an extended time, trouble is brewing. Honestly, if you’re not willing to make the effort to manage your work/life balance, you’re essentially being unfair to both a potential partner and yourself.
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You don’t recognize the value she adds to your life.
Usually, when someone is far more interested in work, recreational activities or maybe even hobbies, they are simply living in alignment with their deepest values. Relationships or at least the one you may be in at the moment simply don’t measure up to the payoff you’re getting in other areas.
People will always invest their energy where they feel they get the biggest payoff. A man who is inspired and supported in his mission by his woman will find a way to have both, but it’s up to you to prove you can support both. How rewarding is it really if you don’t have someone special to celebrate your victories at work with at the end of the day?
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You don’t know what you want out of life.
Last but definitely not least because this is as important as number one. A man that doesn’t know what he wants out of life is a huge turn off for a woman. Even if you’re not looking for a serious relationship, you need to be able to express this to the person you’re communicating with.
LAST LOVE TIP
It’s my hope that after reading this advice on the mistakes men make in relationships, you’ll focus less on the things you did wrong in the past and more on the new information I’ve shared to help you turn things around. Whatever decision reading this has brought you to, we do not judge here but we support you as the right one for you. Reach out to us in the comment section for any more help.
