LOVERS DESK
Lovers Desk is a weekly Lovelife.ng series that explores the relationship struggles and exploits of young Africans. It showcases the hidden love and hurt stories that are rarely shared or discussed, helping you see through their lens and draw lessons for your own love life.
Dear Tunde,
“I don’t know how to manage”, that was one of the first things I told you when we first went on a date.
I meant it then and I mean it now.
You see…I am not one of those girls that like to pretend and act like they don’t like money. I was very vocal to you about my love for money especially in a relationship. I told you clearly that if there was no money in a relationship, I would not be able to stay in it, because, yes love is important but money is also extremely important.
Tunde, you thanked me for my honesty and said you had never met a Nigerian girl who was this brutally honest. You loved how bold I was to bare my feelings on a first date.
I told you I was a different kind of girl and you smiled at me, in that moment I really wished you had realized what I meant by that.
Our relationship so far has been amazing. You are the best boyfriend i have ever dated.
You’ve been caring, supportive and have provided me with everything I could have ever asked for and even more.
I do love you completely but for a girl like me, love is never truly enough.
When I said yes to you and I accepted to be your girl, I had no idea that six months later you would hit such a massive financial roadblock.
It makes me so sad for you right now but this is not a situation that I want to do with you.
I am not the “for better or for worse kind of girl”.
I will only always associate myself with “for better”. As much as I love you and as much as I know that you love me I cannot be in a relationship with a man who cannot provide my financial needs.
I understand how difficult things are for you and while I am sympathetic to your current situation, please understand that I have to choose myself first.
You have stopped buying me gifts.
You have stopped taking me to expensive restaurants.
You don’t give me money anymore, even when I ask.
I don’t know how to do this anymore.
I need someone who can provide my needs when I want them; no excuses, just actions.
You used to be that guy fora while, but, not anymore.
Tunde, I have to break up with you.
I’m sorry but I have to. This is not because I don’t love you because I still do but I love myself even more.
I want what’s best for me and what’s best for me is a man who can comfortably foot my financial needs. You’re not that man.
I am certain you will meet a girl who will love you more than she loves money…I’m just not the girl.
When Adekunle Gold crooned “love is not enough” in his music HIGH, he was only stating facts.
