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How To Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply
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2 years agoon
When someone hurts you deeply it cuts deep and sometimes it’s so difficult to know how to forgive them.
It’s made worse if the person who hurt you is not apologetic about what they’be done or are not even aware of the extent they hurt you.
You might even feel it’s better for you if you do not forgive them or hold onto the grudge. In reality, not forgiving a person, will only hurt you not the person.
You’re the one that will be left with the feeling of anger. Life is too short to hold on to feelings that do not serve us or nourish us.
This is how to forgive someone who has hurt you even if they don’t apologize
Allow yourself be mad
You’re allowed to feel bad and pissed off.
Don’t try to fast forward the process of your healing.
If something physically hurts, you allow your body feel the pain and then you gently take care of it until it heals. The same goes for your emotions.
Allow yourself feel everything, then, gradually start to heal from within.
Do not cover it up or try to act tough when you’re hurting on the inside.
When you’re able to go through your emotions the right way, you open up a window to heal properly:
Practice Self Love
Self love is not a maybe thing. It’s absolute necessity.
When trying to forgive someone who has hurt you, now more than ever, you need to practice self love.
Take out major time for yourself. Indulge in things that make you excited and happy.
When you’re able to give yourself love, you will be able to think more clearly and understand the importance of letting go of feelings that do benefit you.
Take lazy walks, breath in nature, journal, go for a spa treatment, splurge a bit on yourself. Remind yourself of what’s really important and what’s not.
Loving yourself means not unhealthy unhealthy situations. You will be able to realize your value.
Besides, when you’re able to take out quality time to shower yourself with love, you will be able to do the same for others.
You can forgive them and still set boundaries
Yes! It’s very possible to forgive people and still let them go.
A lot of grapple with forgiveness because they think it involves letting people that have hurt you back in your life.
No! You don’t have to do that if you don’t want to.
Forgiving them is about you; and you have to be selfish with yourself.
You can free your mind unhealthy weight of holding grudges and still decide that you do not want to entertain people that have hurt you deeply.