Cheating On Deji – A Costly Mistake

Everybody told me Deji was a playboy and he would break my heart. My friends, my family, even outsiders.

You see, he was a decently famous DJ in Nigeria and was invited for numerous parties. He had a record of being with so many different girls but somehow I felt he would be different with me.

In my mind, I was the good girl that would change a playboy. I truly believed he would change for me.

Was I wrong?

While we were dating, he never gave me a reason to doubt him. He provided for me, he was with me most of the time and he would even take me along for house parties.

Even better, he would allow me go through his phone and messages. He told me that while  he had an infamous record of being a player and a bad boy that I was changing him. He genuinely looked really content with me.

Everything was great between us…till it wasn’t.

One day, while I was on instagram scrolling through my feed, a message popped on my dm. A girl had reached out to me to tell me details about her relationship with Deji.

She revealed to me that she wanted to come to me “woman to woman”. According to her Deji was cheating on me with her. She even revealed that their most recent rendezvous was a week ago. She went on to explain that she thought I deserved better and that was why she came to me.

She even went further to send me picture of the both of them cuddled up in bed with his arms wrapped around her. Imagine my absolute devastation.

When I heard and saw everything the girl on instagram had to say, I was completely heartbroken. This was because I was already expecting the worst from him and naturally I was scared that my fears would come to life.

I called my friends to tell them about the heartbreaking revelation and they reiterated their initial fears and statements about him. They told me that Rhett had been expecting earluer and that it only showed to prove that he was indeed the playboy they thought he was.

I was so sad that my friends offered to take me to a club house for the night so I could shake off some of the sadness. When we reached the club, I filled my stomach with lots of alcohol so that I could forget the way I was feeling.

Deji kept calling me and sending numerous messages but I did not respond or even acknowledge him at all.

I wish I had.

I danced and drank so much that I lost myself completely.

I woke up the next morning on a new bed to a strange man lying next to me. Turns out that I was in a hotel room.

I was completely naked and the strange guy was too.

I couldn’t contain my shock. I did not someone to spell out what had transpired the previous night. The used condom lying on the floor cemented my suspicions.

I had sex with  a stranger.

I could not remember bits and pieces  of the previous night and it scared me even more.

I crept out of the hotel room that morning, fighting to hold back tears.

My only consolation was that even though I had cheated on Deji, he had also cheated on me with another girl.

When I got home, Deji was standing in front of my door wearing a puzzled expression on his face. He did not understand while I had zoned out on him the previous day.

I narrated the revelations I had gotten from the girl on instagram and even showed him the photos to back up my claims.

Deji held me and revealed to me that it was all before he met me, he told me that he had been in a brief situationship with the girl but it had needed months before we started dating.

Of course I did not believe hi at first. But then, he proceed to show me their messages that had dated back months ago and that he had discontinued all communications with her.

While I was still on the fence about his explanation, he drew my attention to the photo she had sent me. On a closer look, I noticed that his arms which were wrapped around her did not have the new tattoos that he recently got 6 months earlier.

His arms were completely bare, meanwhile, she had told me that they were recent photos.

The more he spoke and explained things to me, the more I realized that I had jumped to conclusions too soon.

I could not contain my guilt so I opened u to him and told him I had cheated on him.

We ended things between us after some months. We tried to make it work, but the trust he had for me had been broken.

This relationship taught me a lot.

You should always trust your partner unless they give you clear reasons why you shouldn’t.