It happens to everyone, even the best of couples. In the early stages, the two of you can’t keep your hands off each other. However, as time goes on, especially during the tough periods, that sexual spark can begin to fade.
The signs that the sexual spark is random, however, some of the common ones are
– Sex happens rarely, or not at all.
– Sex has become a routine.
– Only one partner initiates sex and often gets turned down.
To get the spark back, we must first understand that sex should not always be spontaneous and easy. Like all other aspects of a healthy relationship, good sex takes time and energy. You have to make an effort.
Start by concentrating on your link with each other. It is necessary both in and outside of the bedroom to be able to communicate. Ask your partner the same kinds of questions that a true friend would feel comfortable asking you. If you chat about your day at the office or your intimate desires, be honest about your feelings.
Try these seven tips to reignite the spark once your communication is back on track:
- Boost your dopamine together
One thing that caused butterflies when you first met was the chemical reaction you always had to each other. Recreate this chemical reaction or dopamine by doing something exciting. Check out a new restaurant, take a cooking class together, go dancing or jog together. Just do something fun that you’re both excited to try.
- Kiss Often
Couples often enjoy intense kissing at the start of a relationship, but they appear to quit over time. A significant part of a good relationship is to keep embracing, kissing, cuddling.
- Reminisce about the early days
Turn the TV off and remember the good times you had when you first met, and the sexual memories too.
- Make a list of sexual possibilities.
Look together at a sex book and be encouraged by its suggestions. Create a list of at least ten options. Don’t worry about whether or not you’d like to try them. List them only. Next, rate each choice on how willing you are to try it on a scale of 1-5. Share your answers. See if there is anything new you can come up with to try together.
- Keep the Mystery Alive
Make an effort to be seductive and keep your sexual connection fresh, no matter how long you’ve been together. Bring some surprise into the partnership. Break the repetitive cycle once in a while; be unpredictable sometimes. This will help to keep the spark alive.
- Get in touch with your sexuality.
To get yourself in the mood, read an erotic novel or watch a sexy movie. Think of the times when you were most sexually aroused. You might even want to compose a fantasy script to share with your partner.
- Seek out a sex coach
While many individuals recognize that they need to make adjustments with their partner intellectually, they also need to speak to an expert to find out how to do it. Getting a mentor is a fantastic way not only to get professional advice and support but also to have someone keep you responsible for the transition. Bear in mind, like any therapist; professional sex coaches are merely there to chat.
Hope this helps anyone struggling with reigniting their sexual spark and those already worrying about them, love and light, Wonder……
