Love is a fascinating yet complicated topic. A lot of people are not even aware of what their love language is. There are five love languages, and you should know your love language. Perhaps after reading this article, you’ll be able to answer the following questions. How do you love? How do you express your love? How do you know when someone loves you? And what makes you feel loved?
Many people in today’s relationships want their significant other to love them in a certain way and do certain things. Still, the truth is that everyone has their primary love language for receiving and providing love. It could be the same for both giving and receiving, or it could be different.
Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Lasting Love, coined the term “5 love languages” to describe how love languages can help you and your partner love and understand each other better.
Here’s everything you need to know about the different types of love languages:
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Words of Affirmation
This language is all about using words to communicate your love. Unsolicited compliments matter a lot to you if this is your love language. If this is your partner’s love language, a wonderful present, a favour, and a hug may be appreciated, but what they want to hear or read is how much you care.
Words have a lot of power, whether they are said, written in a letter, written in love notes, or texted. For some people, words of praise might help them form a solid foundation of love. Words are vital to everyone, but they are especially so for those who speak this love language — they are necessary for their emotional requirements.
Using words that build up and express your sentiments is one technique to show love emotionally.
I adore you.
You did a fantastic job.
I look forward to waking up next to you every day.
It’s great to be in love with you.
Thank you for being there for me at all times.
I adore your grin.
You are stunning/attractive.
It makes me happy to think of you.
To me, you are everything.
Don’t give up; you’re doing fantastic.
You look fantastic today.
These phrases can go a long way, but be sure your remarks are genuine and that you mean what you say. To make your partner feel better, don’t makeup praises or embellish the reality. Words People place a high value on words, and we can further harm them by feigning sincerity.
It takes time, thinking, and love to put time, thought, and love into words of affirmation. Insults have a powerful influence on people whose love language is affirmation; the choice of words and tone of certain statements can easily damage them.
This is one of the love languages I employ to convey my love for my significant other; I explain my sentiments in this way.
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Acts of Service
Some of us believe that deeds speak louder than words. You may give words of affirmation to someone whose primary love language is acts of service, but they are thinking, “Leave talk. Do something around here if you love me.” “To love us is to do things for us,” they say. It’s doing things for them that you’re sure they’ll enjoy.
People who adore this language demonstrate their affection by offering to help with chores, massages, or meal preparation. Acts of Service focuses on making the other person feel loved by assisting them in every manner possible. “What can I do?” or “How can I help you?” is what your partner who speaks the love language of acts of service wants to hear from you.
Acts of service can take the form of any of the following:
Cleaning the kitchen or the bathroom.
Fix things they can’t.
Prepare a special meal that you know they will enjoy.
If this is your partner’s primary love language, they’ll appreciate your assistance, and nothing says “I love you” like service. Time and imagination will be required for acts of service. You must demonstrate to them that you put thought into what you did, rather than merely doing it because it had to be done.
Dr Chapman discusses service actions as an expression of love; acts of service must be freely provided if they are to be considered acts of love.
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Receiving Gifts
Gifts are another technique to get to someone’s heart. The love language of receiving gifts is sometimes misunderstood. Many people misinterpret this love language as egoism or materialism. Receiving gifts is a means for those who speak this love language to comprehend and feel that the love is genuine and meaningful.
It’s not always about spending a lot of money – even small gestures like picking up a bouquet from the grocery store or bringing home your partner’s favourite bottle of wine may say volumes. The receiver of presents lives on the thoughtfulness and work that went into the gift.
Those who speak this language love hearing things like these:
Honey, I bought you this dress because I thought you’d look great in it.
I got this cologne for you because I wanted to smell it on you, babe.
I brought you your favourite roses and wine.
I went to the store and purchased this watch/necklace for you because I thought it would complement your style perfectly.
People who speak this love language enjoy being surprised with gifts at unexpected times, rather than gifts that they “expect” to get because it’s their birthday, anniversary, or another special occasion. They will enjoy whatever you give them, but the more unexpected and essential it is, the more it will be remembered; it only has to catch them off guard to be valuable. The more natural the present, the more grateful and cherished they will feel.
Those who speak this love language require visual evidence of affection to feel connected to their partner. They are persons who comprehend love through nonverbal physical manifestations of feelings. If you can communicate in this language, the ideal gift or gesture will demonstrate that you are loved and cared for.
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Quality Time
Attention is the best gift of all for lovers who speak this love language. One of the most challenging love languages to master is quality time. Quality time can feel like one of the more high-maintenance love languages for those of us with busy schedules. We all have busy lives, and it isn’t easy to devote a considerable amount of time to our significant others.
When their partner switches to airplane mode and offers them complete attention, people who speak this love language feel the most cherished. It’s essential to be there for this type of person, but genuinely being there — with everything on standby — makes your significant other feel truly special and appreciated.
Even if you have a busy schedule, there are simple methods to make quality time with your spouse a priority – ways to show them that you care, even if you feel pressed for time.
Make plans for a romantic getaway.
Take a trip by car.
Let’s go for a long walk together.
Play board games at home for a night.
Have drinks with your friends.
These are just a few of the options available. You may feel that spending a lot of time together, or going out and doing a lot of activities together, is synonymous with quality time. Quality Time love language, on the other hand, has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend together and everything to do with the quality (keyword) of the time you do have together.
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Physical Touch
At its core, this love language is pure and sweet. Physical contact is simple, but in a world where a touch can be misread on many levels, it is a misunderstood love language due to its overly sexualized connotation. It’s not all about sex when it comes to physical touch language. I am a Physical Touch person who enjoys receiving love in the form of touch and physical proximity.
Those of us who use physical touch as our primary language are extremely sensitive. Nothing is surprising about this. We enjoy physical contact, both giving and receiving it.
Physical connection is the most effective way for us to feel appreciated. Physical touch is reassuring and makes us feel loved and wanted; nothing beats getting a hug at the end of a tough, exhausting day. You can’t escape negativity in today’s world, and finding joy in the mundane is difficult. However, knowing that you can return home to a warm hug is priceless.
These are some ways to speak Physical Touch language:
Kiss them hello/goodbye
Holding hands
Give them a hug from behind
Touch them gently as you walk past
Go for a walk and hold hands as you do so
Please get in the shower together and wash their back
A good make-out session,
Sit next to each other on the couch and touch in some way
Back rubs
Gently touches on the arm, shoulder, or face
Thoughtful touches can all be methods to demonstrate concern, care, and love, and they can all be ways to say I love you.
LAST LOVE TIP
The truth is that everyone speaks a distinct love language, which is perfectly fine. Identifying and understanding your love language can assist you in navigating every relationship in your life, and knowing others’ love languages will enable you to speak it “fluently” so that you may adequately transmit your love.
