Marriage
is sacred but it is not meant to make people suffer. Many have been married for
multiple years who should have walked out of that marriage but stayed. We
celebrate the number of years they have been together while they celebrate the
number of years they have been unhappy.
I believe that marriage should not end up in divorce but in these days where many marry for the wrong reasons, divorce maybe an option in some cases. Marriage must benefit both partners and not just one of them. This is why we have listed conditions upon which you can walk out of your marriage without feeling any guilt whatsoever. When you face any of these listed issues, it’s likely time to divorce.
When Your Partner wishes and Plots for your death, it’s Time to Divorce
Many people would still be alive today if they had called it quit when they realized that their partners, the one that once professed love to them actually wants them dead. Instead, they called a family meeting and the matter was supposedly settled but a few months down the line, life was lost.
It is
foolishness for you to stay put with a person who wishes or plots death for
you. You need to run without guilt and without looking back.
Physical and Emotional Abuse
Depending on your level of tolerance, maybe you can even take some emotional abuse with the hope that your man changes. But to endure physical abuse is to sign your death warrant.
While
enduring physical abuse, you will be enduring emotional abuse as well. Because
both of them walk hand in hand, you cannot miss the two. Suffering emotional
abuse can many times be more fatal than physical abuse because the impact is
embedded within and without. You lose your self-confidence and self-esteem
while literally becoming a shadow of yourself.
When You Discover Your
Marriage is a Sham
These days, many people get married for different reasons unknown to their spouse. For instance, many people get married abroad just to get a green card and citizenship of foreign countries. All of these is done while their partner assumes it was love like never before.
When
you discover that your husband or wife abusing you like this, that’s a day you
need to walk out. It means they are only treating you right for what they want
to get and once they get it, they throw you under the bus.
When He/She Displays Violent Temper, It’s Time to Divorce
I
grew up seeing what violent display of temper can cause. It can make a
seemingly gentle person lose his senses for a moment without caring who gets
hurt in the process.
As a
young boy, I had seen a woman violently display her anger by breaking all the
bottles and household equipment even with kids in the house. She injured
herself and the kids. What if she had died or any of the kids?
What
some people need is therapy, not a partner.
Your Partner
is Diabolical and Engages Dark Arts
If
this is happening, you are likely not in your senses but if you ever regain
your senses and discover, run.
No
matter how much a diabolical person loves you, the day your life is requested
by their gods or dark magic, they will have no choice than to give it.
Your Partner is an Unrepentant
Cheater
I
have always believed that infidelity is not enough reason to throw a marriage
away. When the other person is willing to work on his or her mistakes and makes
a commitment to be better, forgiveness should happen.
However,
when you are with a person who has no regard for you and the sanctity of your
union, you should walk out of that marriage without guilt.
You have fought to keep your
marriage but it’s just not working
Over the years, I have often counselled that you have not done all there is to do when people say I have tried everything. But I also know that sometimes, you have exhausted all options available to you as an individual but the other person is not cooperating at all.
More on this…
It takes two people to really make a marriage work. When your partner has refused to be responsible, the fights won’t stop happening, when the other person keeps doing the same thing, and when he or she has refused outright help from a third party (coach, counsellors, therapists, mentors etc), it may be time to divorce. This may be a sign that you are in a hopeless marriage.
Word of caution
We are also in a generation where we throw everything that is perceived as not working away. Sometimes, what you or your partner need is therapy, counselling, books, training and commitment to make it work regardless.
Conclusion
Don’t walk out of your marriage at the slightest provocation. Engage your partner and in cases where you see reason, work with them to get the necessary help. If you throw away a man or woman who is ready to work things out with you; you can’t tell what the next person will be like. It is possible that we have missed one or two other conditions where you can divorce your partner.
Feel free to add them in the comment section below and let’s have a discussion about it.
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