How To Heal From A Toxic Relationship

After you finally leave a toxic relationship, how do you heal? It’s one thing for you to leave and it’s another thing for you to heal. Leaving without healing can make you go back into a toxic relationship, it might even be that same one. It can also be that in your next relationship, you become the toxic one because of what you’ve experienced, so this is why you need to heal. 

How Do You Heal From A Toxic Relationship?

Don’t Check-In On Old Partner; Hello! Old things have passed away, all things are what? All things are new so please leave them alone. Focus on yourself now. Toxic people are gaslighters and once you start checking up on them, they talk to you and express themselves in a way that it will seem like it was your fault. Then you begin to think, ‘was I harsh to end it? Did he really deserve it? I was too hard on her?’ Then you just start to feel some type of way. 

You don’t even need to be friends with that person. There’s nothing like, we ended it amicably, erm, move on, please. Stop lying to yourself. They were hard to be around with and you finally escaped, just don’t go back.

Maintain a Positive Group

Always stay around nice people that will keep your spirit high. These people will help you forget. It will take a while and it will hurt but with a positive group, the healing is faster. Toxic relationships have a way of keeping people alone, so now is the time to reconnect with your inner circle or make new friends.

If you are always lonely, you begin to reminisce about your last relationship and then you try to reach out to your old partner. When you have people around, they bring up your spirit again.

Visit a Therapist

You can’t do it all bad by yourself. You can seek help and it should be from a therapist. Talk to them, and never be afraid to share. Nobody is going to laugh at you. It’s a safe space and you don’t need to carry the burden on your own now. You have to be willing to open up.

Feel Your Emotions

Don’t be afraid to express how you feel, it’s only normal. If you have to cry then cry. Give yourself all the time you need to feel everything you need to feel. We know letting go of a relationship is never easy, especially a long term one. When you try to hide your emotions, it slows down the healing process.

Practice Self-care

You have been through a lot, treat yourself to something nice. Get yourself the things you like, cook your favourite meal or buy it, watch that movie, read that book, listen to music. When you leave a toxic relationship, you gradually begin to discover things and then you realise that you have really not been taking care of yourself. All your attention was on the person and the relationship. Now it’s over, take good care of yourself and rest. When you practice self-care regularly, you get to, Discover your true self.

It’s time to prioritize YOU. It’s time to prioritize how you feel, and your happiness. Toxic relationships can make you forget who you really are. They can negatively change you but now, you want to heal so you are letting go of any bad energy and bad traits.

Take Note of What You Experience

This is good in the future so you know what to do when you are ready to be in another relationship. Nobody is asking you to be paranoid and always watch out for your partner to see if he harms you. Just make sure you don’t make the same mistake twice. When you note what you experienced, you are able to set new boundaries for yourself.

Be Patient

You have to understand that things like leaving a toxic relationship are not easy and you have to understand that. Once you do, you’ll be easy on yourself. Healing takes time, never doubt the process or doubt yourself. Some days will be much harder than others but allow yourself to take as much time as you need to feel better.

In general, people heal from toxic relationships. You can reclaim your life and thrive even after going through hell. Your recovery is not the same as others. Everyone’s recovery is going to look different and there’s no right or wrong recovery. Now that you’ve let go, let yourself HEAL.