How
Having Sex Has Become the New Cool!
Almost
everyone is having sex. I am not referring to married people. Almost all
singles including teenagers are having sex even when they have no business
doing it. In this piece, I will attempt to provide you with reasons why sex has
become the new cool but the question really is, is it really cool?
These
days when two potential lovers meet, they don’t bother asking ‘have you had sex
before?’ instead they ask ‘how many people have you had it with?’. I’m not here
to comment on the acceptable or unacceptable nature of this but let us put
a perspective to the reason why everyone is jumping on this phenomenon, even
those who don’t want to.
Yes,
there are many singles who want to be celibate till they get married but many
are failing in this quest because of these same reasons.
Societal
Induced Pressure (SIP)
From
the Nollywood movies to Hollywood movies that you were introduced to, they made
it clear that once you meet a partner and you seem interested in yourselves,
you should have sex. You hear words like ‘why haven’t you had sex with him?’ as
though it is a ritual that saves you from being heartbroken
eventually.
Society
already laid the foundation. Then they went on to make it a conquest. When
you have done it, you have achieved certain ‘greatness’ and when you can have
it with a beautiful or handsome woman or man, you have won a jackpot. You now
have bragging rights and since you feed on their approval ratings, you go on a
wild chase of sex and eventually lose yourself in the process.
This
pressure is usually subtle but it is the driving force for many people who need
not have it but are having sex today.
The
Need to Be Loved
This
is where we need to call a Parents meeting and help them understand that the
love their children cannot feel from them, they will seek it in the arms of a
man or woman. Many young unmarried people would have remained celibate but for
the fact that sex was required to prove their love to their partners. Many of them
who already lacked love were willing to give it just to be able to guarantee
love from the other person. Sadly, sex has been equated with love but we all
know that it’s nothing close to it.
Sex
will continue to be the new cool until young people learn to love themselves
and get unconditional love from their parents and family.
Sexual
Urge is Real
Starting
from the first time you have sexual encounter, it becomes difficult to stay off
it especially with the one you desire. This urge is scientific and the only
language sexual emotion understands is caution. When you don’t want to have
sex, don’t try to smell it. By kissing, smooching, watching porn, watching
sexual scenes in movies and being in a lonely place with the one you have a
connection with, you are simply throwing caution to the wind. When caution is
gone, what happens is sex.
If
your answer is the latter, society will kill you. They will determine your
man’s d*ck size, your woman’s sexual orientation. You will become a pervert and
you will look back at your life many years (if you are lucky) from now and
still won’t be able to remember who you really are because the real you was
lost in transit (in the process).
