Rejection hurts. Simply and short! It hurts bad. No one likes being rejected and no one enjoys rejecting others(at least no sane person does).
In life, however, rejection is a word that will show up with consistency.
In the dating world, rejection hurts even worse. When someone you really like tells you No and you know they do not return the same feelings, it can not only hurt your feelings but also bruise your ego.
This is why it’s important that when you reject a person, you are considerate of their feelings and you do it in a way that is gentle.
These are 6 major ways you can reject someone without bruising their ego.
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Be Clear
When communicating with the person, make your rejection clear. If you don’t like them enough to be with them, then, state it out. As much as you want to play the nice, it will hurt them even more and make them feel even worse if you lead them on.
In time they will appreciate you for your honesty and you also give them the opportunity to move on from you.
2. Compliment them
As important as it is to be honest, most times, the truth really does hurt. This is why you should slip in some compliments as you tell them the truth to their faces. This makes the gravity of your rejection less colder.
You don’t want to seem too blunt and uncaring. You can remind them of all their great qualities whilst rejecting them so they don’t feel like they were not enough for you.
3. Be Respectful
For someone to walk up to you and express their feelings of likeness, it means that they have a lot of courage. This also puts you in a position of power.
It can feel good to know that a person likes you that sometimes you become inconsiderate of their feelings and think only of yourself. Just because they expressed their feelings to you does not mean that you can abuse that genuine expression. As you reject them, treat them with compassion and respect. You don’t ever want them to feel regret for expressing their emotions to you.
Be super thoughtful of your interactions and pick your words with the utmost care.
4. Be Responsible For Your Actions
Just like they are responsible for how they feel towards you, you are also responsible for how you react to them. Don’t try to shift the blame when trying to explain why you do not reciprocate their feelings. Tackle the situation head on. Do it fast. Do it well.
5. Keep The a friendship
This will only go if you already had an existing friendship with the person who has feelings for you. Do not let the friendship suffer for the rejection. You can reject a potential relationship but make it clear to them that your stance has nothing to do with whatever friendship exists between both of you.
If the person In question intentionally asks you for space, then you should go on to grant them that. If they do not want a friendship after the space, then, you should also respect the decision.
6. Be Firm
When you make a decision, stand by it. Do not waver. Even if the person in question seems unhappy and does not want to respect your decision, that’s okay. Rejection is hard and can hit many people differently. Give them some time to come to terms with it. But always stand on your decision. This also makes it easier for them to get over the rejection.
