FIXING THE UNSTABLE PARTS OF YOUR LOVE LIFE
It was Gandhi that said, “Be the change you want to see in the world”. We often apply this to nation building and forget that nation building starts from personal-building, then family-building. This means when you fix a person, you are fixing a nation.
If we will see it from that context, it is safe to also say that fix a woman, you are fixing a wife or fix a man and you are fixing a husband.
The man or woman you are usually determines the experiences and people you attract. When we seek to change our experiences and the type of relationships we’ve been having, what we need to pay attention to is changing or fixing ourselves.
How to fix yourself?
Self-awareness is one of the most important tools for fixing yourself and invariably your love life.
Make a list of all that you want in a spouse. Be clinically detailed. Then, look through the list as you ask yourself “would this person of great quality be with me?”
Oftentimes, if you are sincere with yourself you will realise that such list helps you to see areas where you can be greater but haven’t been.
You are attracting wrong people because you haven’t become the right one yourself. Check your habits, values, and character and you will see a need for an upgrade.
You want a better love life, don’t focus on the other person who is or isn’t asking you out. Don’t focus on the one who is or isn’t loving you – focus daily on the man or woman you see in the mirror every day.
Only the man in the mirror is capable of giving you a happy love life. Fix the man in the mirror, fix your love life.
P.S: Why not be the one to apologise? Why not be the one to love more? Why not be the one to take initiative in your relationship? By doing that, you will actually be fixing yourself. No more blame games.
Fix your eyes on the man in the mirror
