LOVERS DESK
Lovers Desk is a weekly Lovelife.ng series that explores the relationship struggles and exploits of young Africans. It showcases the hidden love and hurt stories that are rarely shared or discussed, helping you see through their lens and draw lessons for your own love life.
MY STORY
I was a woman in love with a man who seemed perfect in every way. He was charming, intelligent, and had a great sense of humor. I thought I had found my soulmate and I was sure that he felt the same way about me.
But as time went by, things started to change. I started to see a different side of him, a side that was controlling, manipulative, and self-centered. He would criticize everything I did, he would belittle me in front of others, and he would make me feel like I was never good enough. He was a classic example of a narcissistic personality.
I was stuck in a toxic and abusive relationship and I didn’t know how to get out of it. I was trapped in a cycle of emotional abuse and I felt like I was losing myself. I was constantly walking on eggshells, afraid of making the wrong move and angering him. I felt like I was living in a nightmare and I couldn’t escape.
But one day, something inside of me snapped. I realized that I didn’t deserve to be treated this way and that I deserved better. I started to stand up for myself and I refused to let him control me any longer. I was tired of being the victim and I was determined to take back my power.
It wasn’t easy, and there were many times when I wanted to give up, but I had a strong support system of friends and family who helped me through it. They were there for me every step of the way and they reminded me of my strength and worth.
I started to heal, and I began to see the beauty in life again. I learned to love and accept myself, flaws and all. I was finally free from the toxic relationship and I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
Looking back, I realized that I had been so blinded by love that I couldn’t see the truth about the man I was with. But I was grateful for the experience because it taught me to never settle for anything less than love and respect. I was proud of myself for having the courage to leave and for taking back control of my life.
I am now in a happy and healthy relationship with someone who treats me with the love and respect that I deserve. I am grateful for my journey and I wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for my experience with the narcissist. I am stronger, wiser, and more in love with life than ever before.
