Esther tells us her story about how her boyfriend kept on body shaming her during their time in the relationship, making her get a butt Implant. He always has pictures of girls with hourglass shapes on his page and he gradually started to push her into getting an hourglass shape. If they go out, he would stare at other women and some out till they leave. It’s not like she had a terrible shape, he just wanted an hourglass woman so he could brag to his friends. He wanted a trophy girlfriend.
Esther’s Story:
I don’t want to talk about how we met and da da da because I’ve chosen to forget and I don’t want to remember. So the thing is, I believe I messed up. I was always the one who told people not to change themselves for anybody, that people will like them the way they are and stuff like that but I couldn’t even do that for myself. I couldn’t talk to myself.
I used to be slim. Just slim and slender. I had guys that loved me like that, I mean, they were on my neck but I still wanted Seyi. He was not the richest or the smartest or the most handsome. Come to think of it, he didn’t even have a perfect body. He was just there. Short for a man and had a tiny protruding belly. He didn’t even have beards. I remember the first time I wanted to let myself go into the dating world, I had a checklist. The things I wanted in a man, like the physical attribute, he didn’t click on any except the dark skin. I have always loved dark skin men.
The first time he spoke about my body was about three months after dating. Like was he just seeing me for the first time ABI did he just want to get me angry? That day, he ordered things, a whole lot of food and I had eaten way too much already so I declined. He made a funny statement that I cannot place but the whole meaning was that I’m slim because I am forming fit fam and I don’t know that fit fam are girls with a good body, big butt and flat tummy. He said these things to my face with a protruding belly. I should have faced him there and there but the words didn’t come to me. I was set aback by what was happening. Because I did not want to eat at that time o. Not like I didn’t want to eat at all.
Not So Trophy Girlfriend
When we went out, he was just different. We will be having a discussion and girls will come in with big butts and he’ll just stare. He doesn’t even hide it, he will stare for a long time and even turn his neck in their direction. It was always so embarrassing. The funny thing is, in this Lagos, 80% of the ladies have fixed fake butt so now wherever you and your man go, it is hard to see a woman without a butt.
I got upset one day when we went out and he was just staring at the girl group at the next table. They figured because who wouldn’t? It was very obvious and I was so embarrassed. I could hear their conversation. They laughed at me and one even said she felt sorry for me. She didn’t mean it, she was mocking me.
That day when we got back home I spoke to him about it immediately cause I was going back to my own place that night. The next thing he blurted out of his mouth was that I should have implant surgery. At first, I thought it was a joke then I realized he wasn’t playing when he started repeating it every time. He even said he was ready to bring out the money. Money was never a problem for him.
I told my friends about it and they were like I should do the surgery with his money and leave him after words because he will only love me for my body. I was thinking of leaving him because I was in love. Since everyone did the surgery and they did not die, I can do it too. I had liposuction in my head, I started to become excited about it. I was going to get a whole new body for free.
Body!
The first day I went to see the cosmetic surgeon, he came with me. We had a discussion with the doctor and we ran some tests and did some other stuff. When we were done, it was concluded that I should get an implant if I wanted a visible result. He said I had little extra fat and it could do very little or nothing.
My boyfriend quickly agreed and said I should do that. I told him I wasn’t going to and that it was my body so it is not his decision to make. First of all, implants are not liposuction, they are dangerous. Or rather I see them as dangerous. I can’t have silicone in me. He said, “So you’d rather remain bone?” Why was he so mean? If he wanted an hourglass girl why didn’t he find an hourglass girl? Why is he trying to make a skinny girl, an hourglass?
That day we went back and forth with arguments until he stopped picking up my calls. I just had to do it because I was in love with him. I sent a message to him since he wasn’t picking and I told him that I was going back there the next day to have the implant, and I did. I went back and then, I was now an hourglass girl.
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He didn’t respond to my messages even after I told him that I was going to do it. He didn’t even look at my side. After I was done, about a week after, I took a picture and that was when he responded. I was still in the healing process so I wasn’t moving around a lot. He was so happy, he called me sweet names, sent me money and had a good company deliver food trays to my place. The treatment was so nice and I also felt good about my new body. It was a win-win for me.
I became the girlfriend he wanted in a twinkle of an eye. He started to show me to friends I had never seen and were dating for 8 months then. When we go out, he still looked when other girls passed but he paid attention to me and always held my hands when we walked. I was the trophy girlfriend, his gold but it didn’t take two months before I became his Bronze.
The intruder
He started to see someone else. I figured it out late but I knew something was off. He said his mum was sick so he had to travel down to Benin where she lived then boom, he forgot to block a friend of mine. He normally doesn’t have any of my friend’s numbers but this particular friend was always with me so since I didn’t have a second line, if he couldn’t get me, he always called her and if she wasn’t with me, she knew where I was.
He forgot to block her and there he was, posting a picture of himself and another woman in the Maldives. Oh wow! That is your Benin city I guess. I didn’t confront him till he got back because if I did, he would Ignore me and think of a lie to tell me when he got back. I waited till he came home, to Nigeria and then to my house. He came in that day with lots of Bananas and groundnuts. Men! I wouldn’t even think of that if I lied. He also got palm oil and you know, the things people get when they go to ‘Maldives’. I asked him about his mum and he said she was doing better. He lied to my face. Like I was stupid. Well, I was stupid, fair enough.
After we talked and I acted ignorantly, I decided to confront him finally. I told him that I knew he was in the Maldives and for 5 seconds he looked shocked then got back to his normal self again. He said it was not a big deal. Not a big deal so why did you lie? That is when oga started shouting that he gave me a new life and I’m questioning his actions. The biggest shock of my life. How this man can turn into a monster in a few seconds was a big shock. I walked out on him that day and Baba never called me back.
Do you ever regret doing it?
Doing what? The implant? Well, it has hit lows but there are high sides too. I’m an overthinker so sometimes I just pray that I don’t suffer in the future or have any of the emergencies some ladies with implants have. Other than that, I’m good.
Great! Glad you are enjoying the body. It looks great on you also
Thank you.
No thank you. Thanks for coming by the studio.
