There are a lot of warning signs you must never ignore in your relationship. Partly, the reason is that they spell doom should you consider such a person to be your wife or husband. And also for the benefit of your wellbeing as well as your children to come. Much of what will be in the marriage comes to light in glimpse during courtship and relationship. So here are four warning signs you must never ignore.
1. Unreliability
Being reliable is one of the pillars of a strong and healthy relationship. It is what births fidelity, trust, and a sense of surety that one’s partner will always be there for one. The absence of this makes any relationship crumble. So, tell me, has your lover been more and more unreliable recently? Have lies and defensive stance constituted much of his actions and inactions? Chances are that this person is not reliable. Do your best to talk it out, give three chances, and if nothing changes, I beg you to walk away.
It is better than waking up seven years after in a shattered home.
2. Promiscuous
A promiscuous man or woman before marriage will become an adulterer after marriage. If your lover has cheated on you once, twice before, it is a warning sign. You should consider having a change of mind about your commitment to such a relationship. Love is supposed to be bereft of philandering. Save yourself the heartaches now. If you’ve noticed this in your lover, my dear walk away.
3. Manipulation
The attribute of manipulation is not gender-specific. It is in men as much as in women. Take time to study your lover. Is he/she manipulative? Those he/she throw the blame of things on you even when it’s clear they caused it? Do they blackmail you emotionally with tears and threats to kill themselves? These among others are signs of a master manipulator. They are drama kings and queens. You should do away with them.
If your partner has this trait, talk to them. If nothing changes, save your future self from chaos. Walk away.
4. Abuse
There is no need to speak much on this. Any instance of physical, emotional, or psychological abuse you’ve suffered in the hands of your lover is a great warning sign. There is no love where there is abuse. Take the resolute step: once you’ve established beyond doubt that he/she is abusive, save yourself and walk away.
Closing
In today’s world, there are more and more cases of broken and failed marriages. You don’t have to join these grim statistics. Take time to study the behaviors of your partner. Love alone doesn’t make a marriage work. I wish you all the best in love and life.
Cheers.
