Hola, how are you doing today? I’m Wonder, and I’m doing good in case you’re asking me too. Many of us are in a relationship, and many more want to be in one, we want to experience that feeling to love someone and be loved back, and for those who have found it, we don’t want to let it go. Today, I’ll be writing on the most important things in a relationship that can help in the courting process and also help stay in a relationship for those who have already found their special someone.
COMMUNICATION
One of the most significant factors in maintaining a stable relationship is effective contact. It’s important to be able to talk about what you really want and expect when beginning a new relationship. This also involves being frank and initiating difficult talks, but your partner would be open and listen to you if you are in a good relationship (and you can do the same). Standing on the same page as your partner goes a long way and it is just as important to speak up to your partner about what’s troubling you, negotiate on your differences and complement each other.
While contact is necessary, both of you should be happy with how much you speak to each other. It’s not safe if your partner wants you to always respond right away and email them all day long, and you don’t want that. If your partner still ignores your messages on the flip side and it doesn’t make you feel comfortable, maybe it isn’t safe either. It’s important to strike a contact balance that you’re all happy with.
RESPECT
Listening to the person you’re in a relationship with, and I mean really listening, not just waiting for the person to finish talking their own so you can contribute. This is a very important way to show respect in your relationship. Even when you disagree or if you’re a Wizkid fan and she supports Davido, don’t try to persuade them to change their mind about the things that are important to them like education or place they want to live after Uni. In a healthy relationship, both partners will have mutual respect for one another.
Another key way to establish respect in a relationship is to be aware of the privacy and boundaries of your partner. You are not entitled to know all that your partner does and everyone with whom they communicate. It also means being aware of the emotions of your partner and not doing things that could really hurt them, such as keeping things that are supposed to be private just between you two. Knowing the passcodes to your partner’s phone doesn’t define having a healthy relationship. While it’s cool if you are into stuff like that, some space is needed for healthy relationships.
BOUNDARIES
All of us have personal limits on what makes us feel good comfortable, secure, etc. You should feel 100 per cent comfortable communicating these boundaries in a healthy relationship and know that they will be respected, and the same goes for your partner.
If you don’t want to hang out every day of the week – that’s fine; if you want to wait before getting intimate – totally cool; if you want to keep having fun days with the guys or girls as the case maybe – do it! Remember that you shouldn’t feel nervous or scared to set personal boundaries in any relationship. And if you feel like your partner is using boundaries to control you, like telling you not to hang out with friends or requiring you to share passwords, it’s time to rethink the relationship.
TRUST
This is probably the biggest one. All healthy relationships need mutual and unguarded trust between partners. No matter what either partner has experienced in the past, like a cheating ex or a parent’s divorce, in a healthy relationship, your partner will trust you completely. It would be best if you understood that it takes time to build trust in a relationship, it doesn’t happen at once and when your partner fully trusts you with their feelings, respect them and don’t betray their trust.
It is very wrong to cheat on them or do stuff to make them jealous. On the other side, you shouldn’t be with them if you don’t trust them. Don’t ever let your partner use their lack of trust or previous encounters as a reason for manipulating you, criticizing you, or otherwise making you feel like you need to be very extra to earn their trust. The trust in your relationship would be inherently reinforced by steadfast love, encouragement, respect, and contact.
SUPPORT
Having someone you know has your back is one of the best things about any relationship, and when it is your partner; someone you love, it feels even better. Whether it’s defending you when someone says something mean or always being there for you to lean on, in a healthy relationship, you and your partners will support each other and treat each other as equals. Your partner won’t try to manipulate you, control you or bring you down. They will be protective but not possessive, encourage you to spend time with friends and family, work towards your personal goals and have a life outside the relationship.
Supportive partners will always want what’s best for you, and they’re not going to keep you from making your dreams come true. You’ll feel like yourself in a healthy relationship, and not like you have to change things or make enormous sacrifices so that the relationship can thrive.
Hope you have a nice read, it’s still the prodigy with an avant-garde writing style, Wonder. Love and light.
