This is a fundamental question, and I should have probably written this article first when I started writing on love, relationship and all things related. Still, I guess better it is that we’re starting now so now that you have the tools, it’s time to know if you’re even ready to start using the tools, hope you get me?
A lot of us get into relationships simply because everyone is going into a relationship or because we think we’ve been single long enough. Still, we never ask if we are actually ready for a relationship. You’re in luck, Wonder, the guru on love life who doesn’t have an easily explainable love life, has decided to educate you on how to know if you’re ready for a relationship or if you should remain a single pringle.
First off, everyone needs to understand that a relationship is a want, not a need, someone else shouldn’t be what makes you feel complete, you shouldn’t depend on others, be happy with yourself first, don’t look for someone to save you.
For some people, being ready depends on their external factors. You need to ask yourself if the circumstances of your life are conducive for adding a partner. For some others, it’s internal, ask yourself – do you feel open to being seen by someone? Can you handle the challenges of a relationship?
Timing is also an issue to be considered before embarking on a relationship. It doesn’t necessarily determine that you can’t have a relationship; it should, however, also be seen as a factor to consider. If the persons involved can make it work, then that’s good, but if you feel the time right now is not apt for an emotional connection, let the other person know and if you’re the one planning to initiate it, tell yourself the tough truth.
It has been emphasized that you’re definitely not ready for a new relationship if you just suffered a loss, like the death of a partner or a separation. Then, you really need time to process; some people often enter relationships quickly at times like that. Still, like most rebounds, their purpose is to suppress the negative feelings and therefore when those feelings resurface, the relationship inevitably ends.
Other factors that can influence if people are ready for relationships to include children, having children may mean that they may not have the time for a relationship until their kids are over. When it comes to work, some people are not ready until their careers are stable while for some, they would prefer to grow in the career aspect with their partners, so you need to discover what category you fall into and identify how ready you are.
It can be said, however, that readiness is not when you have achieved some objectives or having perfect mental stability. Finishing all your goals and checking items off a bucket list doesn’t make you ready for a relationship either, someone can’t be able to say that they are ready for a relationship unequivocally. In conclusion, however, the feeling of being ready to take that leap and go on that free fall with and for someone matters a lot and determines how healthy your relationship will be. Love and light, Wonder…..
