When you’re married to an assertive individual who is unafraid to express their thoughts, it can sometimes be the best thing ever but it can also cross a line.
A lot of men and women are married to partners whose alpha behavior go out of bounds. Unfortunately, many partners are in denial of this behavior in the individuals they’ve married but they don’t want to confront the issue that their partner might be bullying them.
Making excuses for a partner that’s a bully is not healthy, and may indicate emotional abuse within your relationship. If you notice any of these signs below, it may be time to question your relationship or leave it entirely.
Here are six signs the person you’re married to is a bully.
1. They blame you for things that aren’t your fault.
For example, when something at home breaks, they immediately attack and assume you’re to blame, saying, “What did you do to the fridge?” This is not the kind of behavior you would expect in a healthy relationship.
2. They talk to you like you are a child.
They make condescending comments to you such as, “I want you to think more about…” or “You need to use your head…” instead of addressing you as an equal. Every partnership should be 50/50; nobody wants to be talked down to.
3. They use an intimidating tone to others when asking for help.
Let’s say you’re at a restaurant with your spouse where their food is served too cold. In an attacking tone, they demand that the waiter take back their food as if the waiter instructed the chef to ruin their meal.
They respond to others as if everyone is out to get them. Again, this is certainly not healthy behavior.
4. They tend to make fun of children or tease them under the guise of “playing.”
Your husband or wife may think they are just playing with the neighborhood kids, but they make insulting comments.
5. They criticize your character.
When expressing their frustrations, they don’t say, “I’m so frustrated!” Instead, they exclaim, “What the hell is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right?” blaming you for their anger.
6. They suffer from “lawyer syndrome.”
This is when someone gains an overly inflated sense of their own ego or believes that they can do no wrong.
This is commonly known as narcissistic personality disorder. Many bullies have a tendency to fall into the narcissist category and believe they’re smarter, more knowledgeable, or just plain better than everyone else at making decisions.
They will often suggest that you don’t know what you’re talking about or shoot down your ideas as dumb or invalid. Or, they may even make you feel like you are not capable of making decisions on your own.
IN CONCLUSION
You need to understand that you deserve the very best married life you can get and dong let a bully of a partner let you believe otherwise.
