Why is it so hard to know if he is in love with you? This is because many of us have an idea of what we think life should look and feel like. These ideas come from movies and are often wrong. As a result, some of us miss love when it comes knocking.
Due to what we’ve been fed by the media or perhaps because we’ve had our hearts broken often in the past so we have built walls around our heart that make it hard for us to recognize or participate in love.
Love is a very tricky thing. A guy can tell you he loves you and not mean it, and also a guy can love you truly but not say it because he isn’t ready.
Love, as beautiful as it is, can also be scary, and a lot of us keep our guard up until we’re sure he feels a certain way in order to keep from getting hurt. As the saying goes, before you fall in love, make sure there is someone there to catch you.
The trouble with this is that when you get caught up in trying to figure out if a man loves you, you can no longer be active in the relationship. Instead of building a connection, you are stuck in your own worried thoughts, and those thoughts produce fears and insecurities that ultimately block you from getting the love you want.
So how do you know if a man is truly in love with you? If he shows these 11 signs, then it’s pretty safe to say he is.
Signs He Loves You:
1. The way he looks at you.
He looks at you like you’re an angel, like he can’t believe you exist. He may even come right out and tell you, “I can’t believe someone like you exists.”
It isn’t a look of lust and desire. Instead, it’s marked by a certain level of awe, serenity, and inner calm. It’s a look reserved only for you.
It’s not only the way he looks at you; it’s the frequency. He can’t stop looking at you; whether you’re together or across the room from each other, his gaze will always come toward you.
2. He wants to give to you.
Real love is about giving, not taking. This is why parents typically love their children more than their children love them. You would think it would be the opposite. From birth all through their teenage years, kids take and parents give. Every parent will tell you that you never know real love until you have a child, and that’s because this kind of love is all about giving.
When you love someone, you want to give that person everything you have. This isn’t about material possessions. You want to give by being the best you can, you want to make them happy, to enhance their life, you want to do things for them that will make them happy.
Love isn’t merely a feeling; it’s action and it comes across in everything we do. The biggest action that indicates a man loves you is when he gives you all he can.
3. He treats you like a priority.
Everyone is busy; we all have work or school or other commitments. When a man loves you, he will make spending time with you a priority. And if he really doesn’t have time, he’ll make sure to let you know when he will.
When a man loves you, you’re the most important person in his life and he makes sure to carve out a place in it for you. You’re not an afterthought or a backup plan.
4. He wants to be a part of your life.
He wants to meet your family and all of your friends, and he really wants them to like him. He makes an effort to get to know them and make a good impression. He wants to know all about your passions and hobbies and tries to connect to these areas of your life as much as possible.
At the same time, he also wants you to be a part of his life and for you to meet all of his people. He wants you to be best friends with everyone he’s close to and he wants the people in his life to love you the way he does.
More than that, he includes you in his bigger life plan. He doesn’t speak about the future vaguely; instead, he makes it clear that he envisions a future with you in it.
5. He really sees you.
He notices things about you that others don’t. He notices how you interact with others, how people feel in your presence, how your mind works, how you process emotions, how you express yourself. He pays attention to all the little details and he remembers them. He appreciates the full scope of who you are, the good and the bad.
He doesn’t just love you, he loves things about you.
When someone really sees you, he sees not just everything you are but everything you want to be, and he’ll let you know when you’re falling short.
6. Your happiness is as important to him as his own.
Your happiness may be even more important. When you love someone, really love someone, their happiness is your happiness. This is especially true for men who need to feel like they can make a woman happy.
If you tell him that something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, this is not a sign that he’s in love with you. A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy and will learn the things will make you happy, and he’ll make an effort to do those things.
7. He misses you when you’re apart.
Men typically fall in love in a woman’s absence, not her presence. A man can shower you with all the love in the world while he’s with you because it’s nice to be with someone else and to connect and be affectionate, but what is he like when he’s not with you? Does he miss you? Does he make an effort to reach out? Or does he disappear for days on end and then tell you he’s sorry, he’s just been busy.
When you love someone, you yearn for their presence and miss them when they’re gone. It doesn’t mean you are constantly thinking about them every waking minute, because that would be an unhealthy obsession, not love, but the thought of them always lingers in the background. Things remind you of them, something happens and you want to tell them, you just feel a constant connection even when you’re apart.
When a man is in love with you, he’ll stay in touch. He’ll send you funny things he finds online or links to articles he thinks you’d like, or he’ll tell you about something funny that happened to him that he thought you’d appreciate. You don’t ever wonder where he’s disappeared to.
8. He keeps you involved.
When a guy loves you, he won’t ever leave you hanging. He’ll keep you informed about what he’s up to, not because he has to, but because he wants to.
9. He’s there for you even when it’s inconvenient.
Being in love is easy when everything is going great and it’s all smooth sailing, but what happens when you hit a rough patch, or when you need him? How does he respond when there is a problem, when he needs to be there for you even if there are other things he would rather be doing?
Love is other-focused; it’s not about one’s own needs and desires, it’s about factoring in someone else.
When a man loves you, nothing will be more important than being there for you when you need him. It may not always be his ideal scenario, but he’ll step up and be there.
10. He doesn’t give up.
He puts his all into the relationship and really commits to making it work. When you love someone, you don’t quit without a fight.
If a man says he loves you but doesn’t want to try anymore, or gives up because he thinks it’s too hard, then it probably wasn’t true love. You don’t give up on love unless you have put everything you have into making it work, and it was just impossible (and this is something that both people will usually be able to clearly recognize).
There are obviously times where someone can truly love you, but because you’re just not right for each other, or maybe because you aren’t willing to put in the necessary effort, that he will walk away even though he loves you, but only after giving it his all.
11. You don’t worry how he feels—you just know.
Similar to what I said in my article about how to know if a guy likes you, when a guy loves you, you just know. It’s obvious to you and to everyone around you. You’ll have a feeling of peace and calm and just knowing.
LAST LOVE TIP
Well, I’ve already listed 11 so I have no tip anymore, I just like concluding the articles this way. I’m sure that after reading this article, the signs will be able to clearly tell you if he’s in love with you.
