Recently, on Twitter, there was a lot of hype about red flags in relationships. Some people revealed some serious red flags in the relationships they’ve had in the past while some joked with the red flags as people on Twitter do. However, in this article, I’ll list some serious red flags that can ruin the relationship and turn it into something ugly if they are ignored by you and your partner.
When you’re in a new relationship, you’re often blinded to every other thing which could be very harmful to the relationship like antisocial personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, etc. These red flags will often show you some of their least attractive behaviors that warn you to get out early.
Alcoholism & Drug Addiction
Drinking daily or drinking until inebriation a few times a week can be a red flag for a drinking problem. Reliance on drugs to get through the day, the week, or through tough spots in life is also concerning.
If alcohol or drugs are impacting your partner’s life in a negative way—be it their work, health, or relationships—that is a sign of addiction. Similarly, if your partner relies on substances to get through the day, week, or a tough situation then that’s indicative of addiction and signifies they haven’t yet figured out how to cope without altering their mental state.
Violent Displays
Someone who demonstrates violence toward you, loved ones, strangers, and even animals is a serious red flag. It indicates they haven’t developed a healthy way to properly channel their emotions. In some cases, it could also be indicative they lack empathy for others.
Mismatched Relationship Goals
If your relationship goals are at odds, this could be a sign that it’s time to walk away. While this is less of a red flag in the sense it’s a personal issue to work on, it is a red flag for the future of your relationship. Other misaligned relationship goals include where you want to live, whether you want to have children, and how you plan to tackle finances.
Persistent Jealousy & Distrust
Another common red flag is jealousy and distrust. Often, the red flag of a very insecure partner looks like attentiveness at the start of a relationship, but there’s an underlying control problem beneath all the attention. Later in the relationship, it’s easier to look back and reinterpret that constant attention or overboard generosity as desperate insecurity.”
Infidelity
Even if your partner has demonstrated change, you must ask yourself if you feel comfortable pursuing the relationship, knowing they have a history of cheating. Some people may not be bothered by this, but if you are, then recognize this factor will affect your ability to trust your partner completely.
Controlling Nature
A partner who is controlling in any way likely has deep personal issues they must work on. Rethink your relationship if your partner tries to control who you see, who you talk to, where you go, how you spend your money, what you do online, what your body looks like, what you eat, or even what you wear.
Stories of “Crazy Exes”
Talking about old flames is common, especially when you’re first starting to date someone new. Do pay attention to the language your partner uses when discussing those they’ve dated in the past. This sort of perspective deflects any responsibility and demonstrates a lack of respect for the people they once cared for and loves.
No Friends
If your partner struggles to make and maintain relationships, then that could indicate you will also struggle to connect with them.
Try to understand why your partner has struggled to build connections with others. If you discover a deflection, no personal culpability, or lack of drive, then you will likely experience the same treatment in your relationship.
They Give You All Their Time
This red flag sometimes works hand in hand with the last one. When a partner doesn’t have other relationships, hobbies, or goals, that is a recipe for an unhealthy, unfulfilling relationship.
Lack of Emotional Intimacy
One of the best parts of being in a romantic relationship is connecting deeply and authentically with another person. For some, emotional intimacy is challenging but it should always be the goal. A partner who shows no interest in opening up and bonding is a death knell for a relationship.
In conclusion, these red flags are very serious. If you notice these things in your relationship, it means that there are serious problems you should be worried about. For you to even notice them, it means they are already a source of concern. Make the best decision for yourself today. Love and light, Wonder.
