Where do you draw the line
when giving your partner money?
It is important for a lot of partners to discuss money matters. That is, how they intend to deal with their income, what they are comfortable with and how they would want things to go. While it’s understandable to give your partner money and assist them financially, do you know where and when to stop? Where do you draw the line when giving your partner money?
A
viral story was once shared of how some guy took a quick loan of from his
girlfriend for his business but it turned out that he used it to fund his wedding
with another woman and it is scenarios like that that recreate the need to talk
about lovers, and how money affects our romantic relationships.
When
the effect of money on relationships and marriages is considered as a subject,
it is often from the perspective of who pays for what, and how best partners
should relate with each other’s money. But maybe it’s time to talk
about where to draw the line when giving your partner money, and when
interacting with them in a financial capacity.
Some couples find discussing this matter really awkward most especially when the love of money is one-sided and the other doesn’t really care on what is what. This sometimes tends to lead to several mistakes being made such as being careless or not trusting enough. While we know that relationship is a two-way street, sometimes money talks build a gap in a relationship.
That said, it is important to know if your partner deserves to know your real income, how you spend your money if you are willing to share your income with them. When these questions come up, maybe it is better you rethink if they deserve the relationship in the first place
Whatever you do, make sure that they would do the same for you if they were in your shoes.
Drawing the line phase
You should never be quick to say you don’t need to be paid back when you borrow your partner cash. It is important to know that getting paid back doesn’t make you a bad person it draws the line for you when things go south. Stick to the number you are comfortable in giving out and do not go overboard when borrowing your partner money all in the name of love. This is why some relationships end in a mess and people are calling out their partners on walking away with their money. When you have a good relationship do not ruin it trying to play financial hero all the time.
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Being married
When
you are married, there’s more space to be ‘daring’ because now you absolutely
trust your partner. Being married means are able to stomach taking more risks,
to give more of yourself to them, and for them.
In conclusion,
one needs to realize that nothing beats being with the right person, whether in
a marriage or in a relationship; someone who wouldn’t make you regret any
action taken in love and as an expression of how genuinely you care about them.
Hopefully, everyone reading this finds that kind of comforting and reassuring kind of love.
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