Understanding Love Languages Will Do Your Relationship Good

How often do you read relationship books?  Do they seem to have any effect at all on your relationship?

I’ve never read a better relationship book than “The 5 Love Languages” written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Dr. Gary Chapman in this book exposed readers to the secrets of building healthy and lovely relationships. In this outstanding resource, Dr. Gary Chapman made essentially clear, how people receive and show love.

By understanding where you and your partner fall, you can connect more deeply in your relationships.

Knowing your love language gives you the communication to explain what’s most important to meet your emotional needs while Knowing your partner’s love language allows you to meet their needs before they even express them.

Let’s break down each love language and as we do, identify one or more languages you speak and those that your partner speaks.

Acts Of Service

The acts of service love language is cheerfully and willing doing things you know your partner would like you to do or helping your mate with tasks that need to be done even without them asking. Examples could include, Serving breakfast in bed to a tired partner,  keeping the house clean, changing diapers, cleaning your partner’s car, and such.

People with the language often fall back to the  “actions speaks louder than words” phrase when they feel like they’re not getting enough love. If this is your partner’s primary love language, do anything that can make your partner feel appreciated or that can help make their life easier.

Physical Touch

Physical touch refers to expressing and receiving affection through touch, physical closeness, and any other forms of physical connection. If your partner’s primary love language is physical touch, it’s because of the ‘feel-good hormones’ our body secretes like dopamine, and oxytocin, during physical connection.  “Oxytocin is known as the bonding hormone.

Give them kisses often, Kiss them hello and goodbye, when you hug, use both arms and linger for an extra moment in the embrace, voluntarily give them a little back,  hold hands when you’re out and about. Physical touch may include sex, but it does not have to. If your partner is someone with the physical touch love language, make sure to communicate with them about how they want to be touched and if there are certain types of touch that they particularly like or don’t like.

Quality Time

Quality time refers to showing love by spending dedicated time together.  People with this love language desire undesired attention from their partners. This love language isn’t necessarily about the amount of time spent together, but rather the quality of it.

Quality time involves putting away every distraction including your phone and clearing your brain of anything that will divide your attention while ensuring that your partner is your number one focus!

Receiving Gifts

Receiving gifts is a love language and should not be confused with a  materialistic personality. A person whose love language is receiving gifts feels most loved when their partner gives them tangible items.

If your partner’s love language gifts, don’t forget the special dates like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and other milestones. These are the best times to give the gifts as they’ll never forget them. You can make them feel loved by occasionally Bringing them their favorite flowers, Buying them something they’ve been wanting for a while, or sending them a surprise package at work. Also, take note that The present itself is nice, but it’s really the thought behind it that counts.

Words Of Affirmation

Actions may not necessarily speak louder than words for some people. Words of affirmation refer to any spoken or written words that confirm, support, uplift, and empathize with another person in a positive manner.

People who speak this love language value communication. They adore words. That compliment will go a long way to prove you love them.  Remind them that you love them and state reasons, assure them that you’ll be there through thick and thin, or spell out their positive features every chance you get. If someone you love values words of affirmation, find the dialect they speak and learn to speak that way in return.

Although knowing how to show and to receive love may be deeper than this, understanding love languages lend a little more clarity about how you can deepen your connection with your partner to build a healthy relationship.

To discover your love language, take the 5 Love Languages Quiz.