#RELATIONSHIP GOALS: BANKY W AND ADESUA ETOMI

It is a story we’ve seen in movies before. Playboy meets girl, playboy falls in love, and playboy stops being a playboy and commits to his woman. For Banky W and Adeusa Etomi; this isn’t a movie this is their love story. Before Adesua, Banky W was in the elite Nigerian celebrities’ Bachelors Club competing with the likes of Don Jazzy, but everything changed in 2015.

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HOW THEY MET

Banky W was knows as a playboy of Lagos before meeting Adesua Etomi. No woman could tie the Empire Mates Records boss down as he lived the party lifestyle and bedded beautiful women including fellow celebrities. This changed when he met Adesua Etomi on social media.

Banky W slid into her DM on Instagram after engaging in social media stalking. Adesua revealed that Banky’s first message to her on IG was hilarious and it got her laughing which made her believe they were going to get along well.

Both Adesua and Banky W have revealed they never had the intention of marrying someone in the entertainment industry before fate brought them together as a couple. Their relationship started in 2015, but both parties kept it on the low, away from the prying eyes of the media.

ENGAGEMENT AND WEDDING

They got engaged in 2017 and had their wedding the same year. Banky W and Adesua Etomi have maintained a relatively controversy-free marriage to date with no news or rumors like we’ve heard from the relationships of many other couples in the entertainment industry.

Banky W officially announced his engagement to actress Adesua Etomi in February 2017. It was initially perceived as a publicity stunt by the public since their relationship was not publicized before then. Nine months later, in November 2017, Banky W and Adesua Etomi tied the knot in what may perhaps be one of the most-talked-about celebrity weddings of 2017.

The traditional wedding was held on Sunday, November 19, 2017, after Banky had successful third surgery for skin cancer. The court wedding was held the next day on the 20th of November 2017, while their white wedding followed after a few days at Cape Town, South Africa on November 25, 2017.

GOD AND THEIR RELATIONSHIP

Many believe that Adesua Etomi was the one that changed the singer and actor and led him to Christ. However, during their reveal at the church service, Banky W revealed that he was already leaving all the worldly traits behind. It was around that period that he found Adesua’s Instagram account and started stalking her.

Although, Adesua Etomi was not the one responsible for Banky starting a relationship with God, she definitely helped it grow. The two of them are devout Christians and their experiences serve as a lesson to young couples everywhere that God is needed in a relationship.

From their special session in church, it is evident that Banky W and his wife Adesua are both strong Christians. They spoke on some principles which led them to their miracle, that is, their baby.

“My wife and I, we live a life of giving, we give to God, we give to building his kingdom, we give to the poor. We don’t loud it but we try to live a life of giving,” the singer and actor said.

So while they were going through stuff, they were giving, and they had to sell off their third car to help the church’s building project.

STRUGGLES WITH CHILDBIRTH

Adesua and Banky W had their first son and child after two and half years of being married. The couple shared the untold story of their experience with childbirth at a special Easter Service program at their church, The Waterbrook Church, on Sunday, April 4, 2021.

They narrated the ordeal they went through before they were blessed with the fruit of the womb, from being trolled on the media for not having a child to trying In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) twice. God finally answered their prayers after joining Nathaniel Bassey’s Hallelujah Challenge, a praise worship movement on Instagram.

Adesua explained how they lost a set of twins after the first IVF process and how another attempt at it failed. She also explained that she was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOs) which causes women to skip menstrual periods and make it harder for them to get pregnant. She said her husband’s sperm morphology was said to be off, while her ovarian reserve was said to be high which might make her reach menopause earlier than usual.

The actress explained that after all the troubling medical experiences; she and her husband gave up on any other treatment or medical remedy and just decided to wait on God. God finally answered their prayers and they were blessed with a baby boy named Zaiah.

According to the Adesua, she and her husband decided to share their experience to encourage other couples who might be going through a similar situation.

Even through all these, the couple stuck together and none could tell that they were going through such a battle. This is because Banky W and Adesua Etomi remained a team; them against the world and made sure that God was on their team.

SEX LIFE

At the end of their session, Banky threw in a joke to calm everyone. So while they were waiting on God, they decided to do an ovulation test to when getting pregnant is most likely.

When they got the smiley stick-which means she was ovulating and pregnancy was possible at that time-Banky W joked that he and his wife had marathon sex for 48 hours.

“Ladies and gentlemen, as soon as I saw the green light, 48 hours marathon filled with the holy spirit,” he joked. “Please, I’m married, I can say it. We did it over and again. By the fourth time, madam was saying I’m tired, I said let’s just do the tired one,” he added.

Sharing this reveals that the couple enjoy a healthy sex life and are able to communicate with each other on their sex life. A healthy sex life is not the most important thing in a relationship but we need to understand that attraction and physical passion is important to remain a happy couple.

LESSONS TO LEARN FROM THEIR RELATIONSHIP

1. Don’t try to change your partner.

While you can’t change someone; the right person will be willing to change for you. However, you should be able to see this change before committing to them.

2. You need God in your relationship.

Banky W and Adesua always believed in God and put Him in the driving seat of their relationship. Many couples would have given up on trying for kids but they gave up on science and focused on faith and their prayers were answered.

3. Remain united.

Adesua and Banky were always a team. It was never Banky or Adesua alone; they complemented each other and faced any obstacle that came their way together. When they were being trolled, they remained united.

4. Private life.

This has always been a big problem for most celebrities and social media has played a part in their breakups. Omah Lay’s recent drama comes to mind. For Adesua and Banky however, they always knew to keep most of their relationship out of the media and this has obviously not affected them negatively.

LAST LOVE TIP

There are many lessons to learn from this power couple. However, the best we want you to take away is to remain united and involve God in every step of your relationship.