Continuing from where we stopped last week, we bring you the last 5 most common relationship problems and how you can solve them.
- Appreciation
It sometimes happens that a partner ends up feeling unappreciated or neglected when the other partner isn’t dedicating enough time to the relationship either by working long hours or regarding the children as more important than the relationship.
Discuss it. What are you both giving in this relationship? How does the labour division work for you? Often it’s about interaction-your partner loves what you do for them, for example, but doesn’t tell it. Support yourself by noticing and telling each other to feel valued.
- Sex
Some sexual issues may require specialist medical support, such as seeing a professional sex therapist. Often it can become a challenge to see how much sex you want or what you want your sex life to be like. How you talk about sex with your partner and how you may be able to chat more freely is worth considering. Often ask yourself whether the sexual problem is an indication of other related problems or whether, aside from this one thing, you are getting on pretty well. Speak about what you want and don’t want, and be kind and respectful of the needs and desires of your partner, if this is the case.
- Money
For many, financial pressures can be a burden; a recent study found that one in 10 individuals fight with their partner at least once a fortnight about money, debt or finances. Keeping problems such as debt from your partner, however, can also cause issues such as mistrust. There is no right or wrong attitude toward money, and some individuals are savers or spenders more naturally. If your attitudes are similar, it is unlikely that there will be an issue. But it could be a source of tension in your relationship if they’re different. Many couples find it helpful to have some shared cash as well as some financial independence for their shared expenses.
- Boredom
Most long-term partners go through stages of feeling stuck in a rut or where you love each other but do not feel “in love,” and over time, it is natural that your relationship changes. The things that people value in long-term relationships are often companionship, compatibility, shared history and knowing someone inside-out, but sometimes these are taken for granted. Try to think about what needs to happen if these things don’t feel enough for you and you want to create more excitement, then talk to your partner. Rather than complaining about the role of your partner in getting you stuck, try to be part of the solution to getting out of the relationship problems the situation has caused.
- Children
When one parent is the good cop and the other the bad cop, it’s really convenient for parents to become divided. Co-parenting when you have different types doesn’t always sound co-operative. This also happens when we have firm ideas from our childhood that we get and believe this is the rule. House rules that you accept to be a family can be helpful; the bad cop/good cop situation can be avoided by presenting a clear view on as much as possible. There’s plenty of proof that kids pick up on parental tension, so if you resolve this, it benefits them. Note that your relationship is more than your family. Even after the children have left home, you will be a couple. So try to make time for each other-your relationship will benefit from it and that’s good for the whole family.
Thanks for getting to the end, I hope this helps anyone in their area of relationship problems, love and light, Wonder.
