Asa’s Relationship Timeline And Why She’s Still Single At 39

Who Is Asa?

Bukola Elemide, professionally known as Asa, is a Nigerian-French singer-songwriter, recording artist and performer. She was born in Paris, France on the 17th of September, 1982. She knows how to play the guitar, trumpet and her vocals are amazing. Asa sings pop, indie pop and Afrobeat. The hitmaker has said that one of the things she hates to do is to write although she’s the one that writes her songs. She procrastinates a lot before writing.

Asa’s Upbringing

The Fire on the mountain singer stated that her father was one of the people that influenced her musical life. She also called out music stars like Nina Simone, Bob Marley, King Sunny Ade, Fela Kuti, and Diana Russ, who influenced her. Asa lived in Paris for the first two years of her life before they moved to Lagos, Nigeria and then to Jos, Plateau.

Asa in an interview with the Popular YouTuber, Korty eo, stated that she had a lonely childhood and nobody understood her music. She said her music was her best friend. When she was asked if she was a weird person, she said,

“People used to think I was all my life but no, I don’t think I’m weird. I’m just unconventional. O didn’t have a lot of help growing up. It’s always people or family who would just look at you like, you’ll not result to anything. Half the time, they said my music was horrible, I should sing what people understood, but in my heart, I knew where I wanted to go. So, childhood was really just erm alone and just me and my dreams and fantasies and you know my world.”

Her Relationship Timeline.

Asa has had a really private life, away from the media and the drama of the public. Fans believe that she has never been in a relationship and she’s too uptight. She has ways appeared to be single, or at least that is what she has convinced people to believe. The singer was a Tomboy while growing up as she was the only girl among 3 boys.

Asa and Janet Nwosu

In 2013, Asa was rumoured to be a lesbian and her manager Janet Nwosu was her alleged lover. This news was carried out by Docklands communications over a news article it published on December 14th-22nd in the 2009 edition. The singer filed a 700 million naira suit against the company for falsely accusing her of lesbianism and violation of their rights.

In 2014, she revealed that she had found the love of her life but the identity of the person or gender was never revealed. 

Asa and her Mystery English Boyfriend

In an interview in 2015, Asa stated that she lost her virginity at 28 years and that she was dating a handsome Englishman, John, whose identity was never revealed. All we know is that he is an entrepreneur and he is the reason behind her song “How did love find me.” She had also posted a picture of them backing the camera and facing the beach.

We have no idea about what happened with the two but we are quite certain that the relationship crashed because the singer is back to the single life again and she says she has no plans to be in a relationship as she wants to focus on her career.

In a YouTube interview with Korty eo, she said that love is a beautiful thing and that she can never stop loving. She also stated that she has only been disappointed but has never been heartbroken. The singer said loving is the best thing and the one thing she always does when she’s in a relationship is that she tells the person that they don’t own each other so anybody is free to leave when they want to

“You don’t own me and I don’t own you so you can leave anytime you want. That’s the first freedom. But you should never stop loving,” she said. 

Asa also added that you’ll never know the right person if you stop loving, if you stop dating and if you don’t keep finding. She said if she doesn’t find love then it’s God’s will and if she finds it, it’s also God’s will.

Why Is Asa Still Single?

Asa has stated that the major reason why she’s single is because she’s selfish with herself and she has not been able to give up her personal space. In a chat with the TV host, Bolanle Olukanni for Ndani TV’s show, The Juice, Asa opened up on how she’s been selfish.

“As I grow older, I become selfish. You see that thrill when I wake up, can you respect it? The guy I was in a relationship with, was an Englishman; he would say ‘don’t go to her early in the morning, leave her alone.’ By 8 o’clock I’m all yours do whatever you want,” she said.

“I was telling Janet that would anyone understand when I tell them that I want to be by myself by 4 and she said ‘just tell them from the beginning.’

“I remember this guy he was amazing…if I have been dating Volkswagen he was a Rolls Royce. I couldn’t be by myself which was a no end. That’s actually one of the reasons I left because it was too much for that person. If I get married and you do that to me…sometimes I think maybe we should have two houses so we can walk down to my house or maybe we should have two rooms…”

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The singer also added that she’s not in a hurry in finding a man yet and she had ended her relationship with John because of distance. She said they were together for a long time and that they remain close friends.

When Asa said she was selfish with herself she meant that she liked her alone time. She said she loves being alone from 3 am and once it’s 8 am, she is ready to do or be with whoever it is. Not a lot of men can cope with that.

“That early morning routine is just about me and myself and it has always been profound because I make the best decisions by that time. I really don’t know if anyone who wants to be with me would understand that I really love to be alone by that time.”

“I used to date someone. He was a good guy though, but I left because he couldn’t come to terms with the fact that I needed my space early in the morning.”

You always have a choice to walk away if the person doesn’t let you feel like yourself. As long as it’s not a bad habit, you don’t have to change yourself for anyone. There’s someone out there who won’t see you as ‘weird’.  As for distance, long distance relationships work as long as both parties are ready to persevere

Asa is still single at 39 but she’s in a happy place making her music.