With everyone getting married left, right, and center, the pressure is real. Parents, uncles, and aunts are probably breathing loudly behind your ears to bring home a bride/groom. LOL. It’s typical. However, it’s important to emphasize that marriage is a personal decision. You should decide if you want to when you want to. Consequently, we have gathered for you fifteen reasons why you need to take it slow before saying “I do”.
1. You need enough time to understand who you’re in love with. And enough time is relative.
2. Planning is a systematic affair. You need to plan your dwelling, its decoration, your lifestyle, and so much more.
3. You need to become familiar and comfortable with his/her family first. You wouldn’t be getting married to just your lover. The family is included in the equation.
4. You have to slowly determine how you two will establish yourselves career-wise. You don’t want to be married without a secured source of constant income.
5. There is the need for you two to try out with different counseling sessions, book readings, and conjugal initiatives to help you comprehend better what you plan to get into.
6. You need prayers. You need to make the waiting period your prayer period.
7. You need to keep dating to test how much you two can unitedly bear each other’s highs and lows.
8. There is a need for you to enjoy your time as an unmarried man/woman before becoming a spouse.
9. Take the time to set your marriage goals and see how you will achieve them when the time comes
10. Take the time to love who you are first.
11. You have to take into consideration all the skeletons in each other’s past and find a way to either lock them up forever or revisit them.
12. Take the time to engage each other critically. Ask each other deep questions and evaluate your answers.
13. You need time to teach other conflict resolutions skills.
14. You have to evaluate each other’s belief systems
And finally,
15. Ask yourself, “Am I ready?”
