You Don’t Feel Romantic Towards Your Partner Anymore? Here’s Help

As we’re all aware, relationships can be difficult at times and a series of difficult moments can cause a situation where couples lose the romantic feelings they have for each other. This can lead them to consider separation. You may be in this situation now and you need to remember that relationships go through different phases and those romantic feelings that aren’t there now can always be gotten back.

Some Red Flags

There are some signs that already let you know if you have begun to lose the romantic feelings that used to ignite passion before in your relationship. Below are some of these red flags:

• You stop having conversations. If you used to share details of your day with your partner and ask their opinion of things, but have stopped, it could be a sign of a lost connection.
• Your attitude has changed. If you feel like you’re treating others the same but your partner differently than usual, it may be a sign that your attitude toward them has changed.
• You make yourself less available. It feels like you’re withdrawing from your partner, or you’re not physically responsive to them.
• You ignore your partner. If you used to ask about their schedule or check-in during workdays but feel like you have lost interest, it could be a sign that things have changed.
• You don’t argue anymore. Maybe you feel like it isn’t worth your time to argue. Or, you feel like you aren’t affected by the issues that get brought up.

These are just a few of the signs to look out for within you. They don’t necessarily mean that the relationship is at an end as long as you still want to fight to retrieve that romantic spark..

How to Revive a Relationship

Below are some things you can try to reignite the lost connection. However, it is a team effort, and if one of you isn’t interested in saving the relationship, it will not work out unless you have a very strong reason for staying together.

Take a Step Backward to Go Forward

Take some time to think about what the early stage of your relationship was like. Ask yourself what was different from when you first met each other and now. Did you treat one another the way you do now?

Try to recapture those romantic moments, whether it’s by going out on a date at one of your old spots, or do some of the old things you both used to do for fun with one another. These things may seem small, but they can be essential in triggering your mind to remember how you felt about someone and why you felt the way you once felt.

Remember the Things You Love About Your Partner

Take some time to reflect on the qualities you love and cherish about your partner. Pay attention to things they do that bring a smile, like their sense of humor or how spontaneous they are.

If those traits are important, try to have more fun together by exploring new activities in an exciting way. If it’s not these qualities but rather friendship and affectionate gestures that make them great partners, then try connecting with them every day instead of letting other matters take priority.

Maintain and Support You and Your Partner’s Interests

In the early stages of a relationship, the both of you still view yourselves as separate, so you maintain the aspects of who you are that make you feel fulfilled, that is; your dreams, games, activities with friends, etc. Often, it’s these same qualities that made you fall in love with your partner. Don’t forget what it felt like for them to be your person and recapture that romantic spark.

Build a Culture of Appreciation and Respect

We all have our flaws. Rather than focusing on your partners’ shortcomings, learn to accept them. And whenever you can express the things you cherish about your partner make sure to do so.

Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence

Coming together with someone is easy because starting a connection is easy but staying together is where is requires work. The two of you need to possess a certain level of emotional intelligence so as not to cause division.

Healthy relationships require both partners to work hard and empathize with each other in order to be successful. If one partner is not willing, it may cause an issue that needs to be resolved quickly before the romantic passions in the relationships begin to stagnate.

Talk to Them

At this stage, we are all aware that communication is the most important in a relationship. However, as simple as it seems, many couples forget how to sit down and talk to each other. Rushing the conversation is not necessary; however, if you have small conversations about the matters, it can help you open the doors to those meaningful discussions later on.

When it happens, be upfront and let your partner know how you’re feeling. Together, you’ll be able to decide on how to move forward. With honesty and trust, communicating can give you the push you need to recapture the romantic feelings in a relationship.

Date Your Partner Again

Often in relationships, we find it easy stop paying as much attention to your partner as you did in the beginning, but if you want to recapture the romantic feelings you used to share, it could be as simple as paying more attention to the relationship.

If you’re married, remember that this doesn’t mean you have to stop dating one another. Treat them the way you used to when you were trying to win their heart. Think about what you used to do for each other and recreate those experiences, like where you went on your first date, things you used to do together, etc. I try to still write poetry for the special one in my life as I did in the beginning.

How the Quality Time Love Language Impacts Your Relationship

It’s only normal to have times where you feel more or less in love with your partner. At the same time, it’s painful to have moments in the relationship when you doubt the feelings of your partner or the future of the relationship.

You may still care for your partner, and you may still want it to work with them. But for some reason, it seems inaccessible. If you’re struggling in your relationship, at some point, you’ll need to decide on whether you want to put the work in or you want something else entirely.

Couples Counselling 

As long as both of you are ready to fight for your relationship, couples’ therapy can support you in making the changes and progress you need. An experienced therapist can help you recognize the areas that need improvement and help you learn different strategies to improve your relationship, such as active listening or communication skills.

Understand that therapy only works if you’re willing to invest the necessary time and effort into it. Simply going to therapy and listening throughout the session won’t be enough. You’ll need to take the recommended steps your therapist suggests and look for places to make said changes. Honesty is the best policy.

IN CONCLUSION

After attempting the following to try and recapture those romantic feelings and if you still do not feel the spark anymore, you’ll need to accept it as a reality and move on. Your partner deserves someone that’ll love them back so if you don’t, let them know so you don’t hurt them more. Love and light, Wonder.

If you are trying to deal with emotional neglect in your relationship, see HERE .