Why Believing In True Love Can Be Harmful

I know you’re probably wondering how love can ever be harmful. Even more so, true love.

How can something that magical and beautiful be harmful.

Technically, True love can’t harm you but sometimes believing in it can.

There are different aspects of true love. And there are different ways you can find true love.

There are people who, however, strongly believe that true love can only be found once in a lifetime.

They also believe that it can only be found in one person.

While this might be wrong or right, having that belief engrained in you can be extremely damaging.

This is why it can be harmful for you to believe in True Love;

1. You tend to Stay in a toxic situation

When you truly believe that someone is your soulmate and that it is impossible to find it in other people, you will be reluctant to leave them regardless of their bad actions towards you. This is the mindset of “where else is better?”

It’s a mindset that cages and restricts you and you will be forced to live in extremely toxic conditions because you’re scared you might never find true love again if things ends with your partner.

A toxic situation can take a huge toll on your mental health.

A belief in a person being your true love can put you in a box, where all you see is one color. You’re willing to make excuses for them and put up consistently with their bad actions.

-Hopelessness

This hopelessness normally sets in after a break up. When you breakup with someone you thought was your soulmate and someone you believed was your one true love, it’s natural to feel hopeless.

You will feel like you have lost your chance at ever finding true love and happiness.

This is not true. Most times what prevents us from finding love again, is our own close mindedness. The belief that we can never have it as good as we once had it or even better.

Believing strongly in true love can breed hopelessness and despair when things go sour, and this makes it very dangerous.

Hopelessness brings you a step closer to depression and once you are depressed, you can begin to have suicidal thoughts and might end up harming yourself.

-Abusive Tendencies are Heightened

I’m not just talking about physical abuse. I’m talking about emotional and mental abuse.

You tend to become almost obsessed with your partner when you believe they’re meant for you and you alone.

You become obsessive and possessive. You might even find yourself doing things you never thought was possible.

Your tendencies for manipulation will increase greatly because you will always look for ways to circle them back to you because you’re scared of losing them.

You might even become a little desperate and you know what they say about desperate times?

A strong rigid belief in true love can definitely increase a person’s  tendency to be abusive.

-Unrealistic expectations

When you feel so strongly that the person you’re with is your only true love and no one else, your look at life becomes a little thwarted.

You will be unable to entertain any other person. You will not be able to dream outside of your horizon of love.

In your world, you and your partner exist alone. It’s very easy to put them on a pedestal since you already feel that they’re made for you.

When they’re unable to meet those high standards of love set for them, you are left completely  unhappy and very unsatisfied.

-Anger

This is the most dangerous part of believing in true love. It’s also one of the last stages.

When the person you’ve built your world around is no longer available, it’s natural to become really angry.

You can  grow resentful of love. You might hate anything that has to do with showing affections.

You will be angry at life, love and the person that used to be your “true love”.

You might feel cheated out of love and close yourself off completely.

Hey! It’s okay to believe in true love, but everything that exists, including true love thrives better  in moderation.

Allow yourself feel true love when it comes and in the unfortunate instance that it ends, allow yourself feel love for another person.

Love is the most generous part of human existence, do not restrict yourself, do not also restrict the person you’re in love with.

Love well. Love hard. And when it ends, trust that a greater love will come your way.