Some people have chosen to remain single and avoid the relationship scene. A vast majority of people, though, crave an intimate relationship due to human nature and biology.
Sustaining a relationship is no easy feat, though an estimate of 40 per cent of first marriages fail, while subsequent marriages are even less likely to succeed. Various reasons can cause this. We have prepared 6 of the most common relationship problems that lead to a breakup.
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Trust issues
For a relationship to survive the test of time, trust is essential. It is also one of the hardest things for a human being to earn and keep. Trust issues range from issues that are material and emotional.
More often than not, an issue exists that was ignored or shelved without being fully discussed and resolved. As time passes, these unresolved issues can persist into your everyday relationship rearing their ugly head in the most ordinary situations.
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Infidelity and jealousy
The most challenging problem to overcome for many couples remains infidelity, whether suspected or confirmed. From emotional cheating to physical affairs, infidelity destroys at least half of the relationship it hits. Deciding to stay together and rebuild is very tough and emotionally draining.
In cases where there was no affair, but someone made accusations, the impact remains the same. Being falsely accused of infidelity can feel like an attack that destroys trust and intimacy. You must avoid making accusations without proof and communicate any fears or doubts you have in a non-threatening way.
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Communication difficulties
Many couples have communication problems, claiming to speak different languages. On the other hand, failure to communicate can cause a once-close couple to drift apart, living more like roommates than lovers.
You’ll start to feel alienated and lonely over time, and you’ll start looking for emotional closeness elsewhere. Lack of communication can also lead to contempt, or the tendency for any critical conversation to deteriorate into sarcasm and belittling instead of a constructive resolution.
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Unbalanced Relationship
Young couples, those with new children, and those with aged parents are more likely to have unbalanced relationships, but they can affect anyone. When one or both parties fail to prioritize the relationship over other people or situations, the partnership becomes unbalanced.
It’s natural for relationships to ebb and flow, and it’s only natural for the relationship to take a backseat during times of stress. When one spouse feels constantly taken for granted, unheard, or devalued, it becomes an issue.
One partner spending all of the holidays with one set of parents, one partner drinking with friends every night after work, or one partner making all of the vacation selections are examples of a lack of balance that can damage a relationship. Even if you’re dealing with challenges outside of your relationship, keep in touch with your partner and let them make some decisions.
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Compatibility
Although opposites attract, maintaining a relationship with opposites is incredibly difficult. A comfortable, long-term partnership requires fundamental agreement on issues like values and worldview. Respect and compromise are essential if you are dramatically different.
For couples who lack essential compatibility, everything from whether or not to celebrate Santa Claus with their children to whether or not to attend religious services can be a source of contention. Only the most tenaciously committed couples can overcome serious compatibility issues over time.
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Abusive behaviour
Abuse in any relationship should never be accepted, but abusive acts tend to follow a pattern. While rage, disdain, and emotional stonewalling may not be enough to end a relationship, repeated patterns can drive people down. Any relationship can be ruined by an inability or unwillingness to respect your partner’s opinions, beliefs, and feelings.
LAST LOVE TIP
While these frequent relationship issues have the potential to damage relationships, they can also be used to help you get yours back on track. If you and your partner are having problems, talk to a professional counsellor about it. Your relationship can be saved with a lot of hard effort if both persons are willing and able to confront their respective responsibilities in the circumstance.
