A lot of my friends always ask me how can they know if a girl likes them. It’s always glaringly obvious to me that a lady is into them but they never seem to see it.
A lot of people say that you can never tell if a lady likes you. Wrong!!! Yes, you can. I can always tell if someone is into me, likes me or is remotely feeling my vibe which is how I know the right moment to kiss them. It goes both ways. I also know when they aren’t interested and move on.
I’ll admit , women aren’t always so obvious about their sexual interest as men. Many of them are subtle, and there are some reasons for this.
While it’s 2021 and the world is advancing, it seems romance hasn’t caught up yet. In studies, particularly around online dating, the majority of men and women still believe men should make the first move.
There’s still also still a lot of stigma around women being sexual beings, and of course, the dreaded fear of rejection.
If you pay attention, though, there are still some signs you can look for to help you sense whether a woman is flirting with you or not.
1. She’s touching you.
Some people are just touchy, so it’s important to note that not all touching is a sign of romantic interest.
It’s about the type of touch and if it’s out of the norm or not.
Let’s say you’re interested in a woman you work with who’s touchy-feely. Does she hug your other co-workers? Does she place her hand on their arms to emphasize points when she’s talking or while she’s laughing?
What you may think is sexual interest in you may actually just be how she is with everyone.
Romantic touches, though, would be if she touched your shoulder, middle of the back, or leg. She may also playfully shove you and giggle if you tease her. Again, pay attention to whether she does it with just you, or if she’s flirtatious by nature.
The next time a woman touches you, ask yourself, “Does this feel deliberate and intimate? Is she doing this with just me?” If so, then it’s likely she’s flirting.
2. She’s looking at you directly.
If a woman isn’t interested in you, she won’t spend a lot of time looking directly in your eyes. Even if you’re talking to one another, she’ll likely keep moving her eyes around the room.
But if a woman looks at you when she’s not already conversing with you for 2 to 3 seconds or more, she’s very likely into you.
Intensely holding eye contact is actually one of the most commonly missed flirting signs. In fact, a study conducted in 1989 showed that prolonged eye contact can even make people fall in love.
In that study, opposite sex participants were asked to gaze into each other’s eyes for two minutes. After the two minutes, the participants stated they felt a significant increase in feelings of passion and love.
It makes sense that we would hold eye contact longer with people we like.
If you make eye contact with a stranger multiple times in one setting, you better be ready to approach her. Don’t be wasting chances, my guy.
3. Her voice changes.
The tone and speed of a woman’s voice may change when she’s talking to someone she’s interested in.
In one study, a woman’s voice was found to become more high-pitched when she was talking to a man she was interested in.
The next time you’re around a woman you like, pay attention to how she speaks to different people. She may speak to her friends or the cashier in a lower tone, while she may speak to someone she’s interested in (hopefully you!) in a higher tone and also quicker (if she’s nervous around you, she may speak faster).
If her voice sounds higher and she’s talking more quickly, she’s probably flirting with you.
4. She’s laughing and smiling at everything you’re saying.
If you were boring her or she wasn’t interested in you, it’s not likely a woman would be smiling or laughing much with you. She would actually likely spend most of her time looking around the room and not smiling much.
She could, though, be doing it out of politeness, so pay attention if it seems a bit over the top. Is she smiling and laughing at everything you’re saying like you’re a comedian when you know you really aren’t?
If so, then she’s probably into you.
5. She’s showing you her hands.
A girl’s hands can tell you a lot about where her affections are. Is she using them to emphasize what she’s saying, or are they crossed in front of her? Is she playing with her hair while you’re talking, or are her hands in her lap not moving?
If her hands are out in front of her, attempting to get your attention, and not being used to “protect” her, it’s likely she’s interested.
6. She’s flirting with her body.
If you’re struggling with telling if she’s flirting with from all of the above, the next thing you can focus on is her body language.
People will naturally do two things when they’re interested in someone: mimic and “point” their body.
Try this the next time you’re talking to someone you’re into: subtly shift your body. Cross your legs or arms. Scratch your stomach. Watch if she mimics the action.
People tend to mimic the behaviors of people they’re attracted to. If she replicates your movement, she’s unconsciously showing interest. If she misses this, her attention is elsewhere.
This next one seems silly even to me and I’ve never tried it but look down at her feet.
People “point” their feet at what they want or what they’re focused on. Are her feet pointing at you? Then her heart might be too.
LAST LOVE TIP
Understand although, that none of these tips are 100% accurate in every scenario. It won’t hurt you though to pay attention to these small, subtle signs because even though once is an accident and twice is a coincidence, if you see three or more of these signs, I bet she likes you.
