Good day, hope you had a restful weekend and how’s your sex life? Now, some of you must have been wondering when we’ll get down to business and speak on sex as we’ve covered a lot of grounds on relationship but never spoken about sex directly, we’ll look no further and wonder no more. Today is the day!!
The act of sex itself is simple however you may swing; you just have to put the penis in the vagina and move your hips for straight sex and for others, a body part comes in contact with another and movement takes place in the pursuit of orgasm.
Sex becomes complex and difficult when there is no communication. Orgasm and the meeting of sexual desires are going to prove difficult if partners are uncomfortable talking about them.
When you discover your desires and share this discovery with your partner, the walls preventing a passionate sex life fall revealing a passionate explosion of eroticism in your sex life.
You Must Understand Each Other’s Sexual Chemistry
From our biological wiring, there’s a difference between how men and women see sex. most men use sex to get closer emotionally while most women only desire sex when they feel emotionally close. The signs that make us feel loved or otherwise in sex may be different as well. Sharing how you feel both will help you and your partner understand each other better and improve your sex life.
Speaking about sex honestly with your partner for any period of time on any part of your sex life will always improve your relationship within and outside the construes of sex.
Communicate About Sexual Persecution and Rejection
A lot of people have felt and still feel sexually persecuted. This persecution comes from different avenues: family, friends, exes and the society. Our society treats sexuality as shameful and therefore, it is very difficult to avoid sexual persecution.
Getting embarrassed over your sexual urges or being anxious about performance can threaten trusting your partner with intimate secrets. This can be emotionally limiting for you and your partner.
Your sexual desires are important and you’re within your rights to satisfy yourself. It’s ironic that the sexual desires that are a source of shame to you are the hottest thing to your partner.
Couples to find time to talk about this. It could happen after sex where they exchange thoughts on what they just did or it’s a planned conversation over drinks. Trust me when I tell you, openly communicating your desires and what you want to explore in your sex life with your partner will greatly impart your relationship and your health.
You Must Plan Awesome Sex
Society has wired us to believe that good sex is supposed to just happen easily without any tension. It’s believed that either good sex happens between two people or they don’t match. The same society that preaches planning and hard work in other areas of life expects the most important to ‘just happen’.
Ask any professional and they will tell you they had to deliberately WORKED on their craft to become better at it.
Spontaneity being needed for awesome sex is an illusion, because anything that is going to “just happen” has already happened in a relationship. Now, it’s time you make the conscious decision to make it happen.
Planned sex is not boring sex like society would have you believe from the movies but INTENTIONAL SEX.
My recommendation is that you create a safe erotic space and time for your partner and you to connect. What happens in the space is up to the both of you, but the space is created consciously with the goal of bringing the sexual spark to the relationship.
Another thing that planning does for you is that it creates sexual anticipation. It causes the both of you to wait, expect and long for the future desire. Planned sex also allows sex to be more than just the routinely 15 minutes before bed.
Follow this three simple tips and I’m sure your sex life will thank you for it, Wonder loves you.
