Questions To Ask Before Committing To A Relationship

Yeah, so imagine you’ve started ‘vibing’ with someone online or that you met by chance and you’re already flirting, mind you, if you met in person, this is your first meeting, and you’re having a good time. The banter is good, you’re feeling attracted, and you may not be considering a relationship at this point, but you’re not against this.

Now, it’s time for your first date, either you exchanged numbers when you met in person, or it was arranged online through social media or a dating app. Now you begin to worry about what to talk about; for some of us that are extroverts, this comes easy but for others, not so much and that is why we’re helping with this.

Remember that time a woman came on Twitter and said a man was asking her unserious questions on a date, with Wonder’s help that won’t be you. Now, these are the 42 questions that should be answered before a serious relationship.

1. What brings you the most happiness?
2. What annoys, irritates or frustrates you?
3. If you aren’t doing what you’re doing, what would you be doing with your life?
4. What most stands out from your past?
5. What are your life’s dreams, and what do you want for your future?
6. What’s your favourite colour, season, music, song, movie, cuisine?
7. If you could change anything about the past, what would you change?
8. What do you regret most in your life?
9. What is the most valuable lesson from your past?
10. Who has influenced you the most in your life?
11. What is the super-power you most want to have?
12. What did you like/dislike about how your parents related to each other?
13. What did you like/dislike about how your parents raised you?
14. What did you most learn about yourself from your first relationship? Your most recent relationship?
15. Where do you see yourself living?
16. Do you want a family? Kids? Pets?
17. What does love look like to you?
18. What 3 qualities do you most want in a partner?
19. How do you feel most loved?
20. What makes you feel like you’re cared for?
21. Describe the perfect day, including the perfect meal for you?
22. What/who are you most thankful for in your life?
23. What would you like me to most know about you?
24. What do you really not want me to know about you?
25. What do you do when you get angry?
26. How would you like a loved one to resolve a conflict with you?
27. What do you do when you feel jealous?
28. Do you see yourself having kids? What are your views on parenting, discipline, and education for your children?
29. What do you see as your role and your partner’s role in a relationship?
30. How do you view and value money?
31. How do you want to care for your parents and ageing relatives?
32. What was one of the funniest experiences in your life?
33. What was one of the most embarrassing experiences of your life?
34. How do you handle stress?
35. How much alone time do you need?
36. Are you extroverted or introverted?
37. What have you most learned about yourself and your partners from past relationships?
38. What are you most afraid of? What makes you most hopeful?
39. What is your life’s biggest success, achievement or accomplishment?
40. What are you passionate about? What makes you feel most alive?
41. What was the worst moment in your life than ending up being the best?
42. What are the countries you would most like to visit and the experience you would most like to have?

Note that you don’t need to ask these questions in the same direct manner as they are here; try and add some dazzle to it, don’t come off robotic and don’t make it an interrogation. These questions are not being asked just to make conversation; they also help with knowing where you both disagree and where to compromise if you can.  Wonder is rooting for you, love and light…