This is a story about a guy, Saheed, who is a virgin at 31. He claims it has nothing to do with religion and morals. He just wants to be that way. He believes that his wife is worthy enough to be his first and he must also be her first.
Life As A Virgin
I honestly don’t see the fun about sleeping around. There is nothing nice about it, it doesn’t show maturity or being woke. To me, it is a funny mindset that I’m not interested in. I have friends who believe that their body count is something to be so proud of. Like the more you have slept with different women, the more of a man you are. I see it as crap. I won’t like my future wife to be like that, sleeping around with men, so I won’t sleep around with women.
Dealing With Temptations
I am not going to lie at all right? The temptation is there. ‘The pressure is getting worser’. I went to an only boys school where all they talked about was girls. I’m not saying I am a saint, like I said, this is not a religious movement, I am just saying that the temptation was a lot. I went to King’s College and I’m sure the majority of Nigerians know the school and how we are with girls. I even had a girlfriend in Queen’s College so you see, I am not a saint. Even in university, I go to clubs, I dated, and I kissed but we never got into sex because I didn’t let it happen. No one knows that I am a virgin, it’s so funny. I don’t brag about sleeping with girls or try to act like a bad boy, I find it disgusting, but I don’t talk about being a Virgin either. No one ever thinks of it. A university boy, a virgin? Who will even believe it? When I go to clubs, I dance with ladies and some even make a move to follow me home but I mostly decline because I know what they want and I cannot give them.
There was this time in school, I went for Mass Communication night and the girl I liked was in that department. They had the event in a hotel hall so most people lodged in rooms and were not going back to school. The girl I liked, I don’t want to say her name, asked me to lodge with her because she had paid for a room. I didn’t say no and we stayed together that night. The thing I figured with my celibacy is that girls are always in awe when they see a man reject sex. Unlike boys, if a girl rejects sex, they know they are not interested, some will stop to follow u and go to some other girls, but girls, or these ladies that I met, they wanted me more. To them, it was me showing my affection and I was ready to wait for them because apparently, I never told anyone about my virginity. That night, she kept on coming toward me. She pushed her butts and kept rolling. It was hard for me to resist because I liked her. I know I had heard my guys saying that when you are attracted to a girl because of her body when you both have sex, there’s a high probability that you’ll leave her.
I know that I liked this girl because of her body so I didn’t try it. I didn’t even kiss her because if I did, we would have had sex. I deal with temptations through self-control. Most times I like to think about how I start to regret after making such bad decisions, I hate the feeling so I don’t do it at all.
Breaking Virginity
At this point, I’m still a virgin. I’m seeing someone, she doesn’t know that but I know she’s a virgin. I trust her, I like her. I think it’s safe to say I love her because that is what I feel. She is an amazing person. I am to break it after marriage. I’ll tell her that too. She is a simple person and we are always on the same page. I’m very sure it won’t be a big deal. I hope sex is as amazing as they make it seem.
