Lovers Desk
Lovers Desk is a weekly Lovelife.ng series that explores the relationship struggles and exploits of young Africans. It showcases the hidden love and hurt stories that are rarely shared or discussed, helping you see through their lens and draw lessons for your own love life.
My Story
I never knew my father. He died before I was born. I grew up knowing only my mother and her family.
You see, my mum had gotten pregnant for me at the very young age of 17, and my dad had been 25. He had denied the pregnancy adamantly, but according to my mother, towards her 8 month of pregnancy, he started to come around.
A Death
Anyway, shortly before she have birth time, he did in an motor accident. His family were never in support of my mother and so they turned their backs on my mum and I.
I grew up with just my mother, and occasionally I would stay with my grandma and my mothers sisters. To be honest, as difficulty as it was growing up without a strong male figure, my mother did everything she could to show me that I was loved.
I never felt like I wasn’t enough or less of myself. We didn’t have much but she ran miles to provide whatever I needed.
My grandma also took care of me on occasions my mum would commute to her school.
I grew up seeing my mother as a friend, and becasue of that I comfortable enough in our space share intimate details of my personal life with her.
Because of how open I was, she was able to guide me and advised me on the right decisions to make.
A Birth
Today, as a 28 year old grown woman, I’m happy to admit that the woman that I am now is because of my mother and her guidance.
I’m a real estate broker, a small time writer and I also run a humanitarian agency by the side. 3 years ago, I married a man who completely adores me and we share 2 beautiful chidnren together.
When people say, children from single parents end up being troubled, I laugh. That was defintely not my case and definitely not the case of a lot of other kids from single parents.
The stigma of single parenthood should be shed off like old skin.
Single parents are very capable of taking care of their kids and can groom well respectable young adults in the society.
With my story, I hope people can realize that a lot of beauty can be borne from single parenthood.
