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Developing the Lips of a Superman Spouse for a happier Relationship

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In relationships all over the world, the lips is synonymous with romance and foreplay. This is good as long as it’s consensual. However,  we need to pay more attention to how our lips can help us build a more happy and lasting relationship.

When I was dating, I remember the arguments. The many words I spoke and the many points I wanted to prove. Sadly, none of them made the relationship last.

It is the same pattern that I find in young relationships and marriages today. You talk and talk till either or both of you are tired.

As a man, you accuse your partner of not doing and being more. You cite examples of women whom you believe she should be emulating. You are quick to mention the sacrifices that you have made and keep making for the relationship. You go on and on till your partner begins to feel ‘stupid’ and worthless.

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When you start your rant using your lips, your partner says in their mind “Oh, not again”.

See, such is the power of words from our lips. The more you say it the more your partner believes it (especially women). That’s because they thrive on words.

Have you forgotten that your words were the attracting factor before she said YES? Where did all that sweet words go? I know. They returned home. The real you have now emerged. The YOU that likes to be always right, the YOU that knows it all and The YOU that is wiser than the wisest. The YOU that cannot ZIP IT. Your lips need to experience a rebirth. You need the lips of a superman spouse.

Having the lips of a superman spouse is first gaining control over your emotions. One of the first test of that is your ability to zip up negative words and unzip positive words even when things are negative. A superman spouse sees the negative but deliberately choose to focus on the positive. 

You are not a superman spouse when you still talk anyhow. Sometimes, you console yourself by thinking what you are doing is correcting your woman. You need to know that what you are doing is not correcting, what you are doing is damaging. You are damaging her self respect and self esteem. You are damaging her confidence in herself and ability to make quality decisions. 

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Sometimes, as men we want to cover up our bad lips with good deeds. It’s important to note this that when you have been good to a woman but constantly make her feel worthless at every occasion of anger, she FORGETS that you can be good. What she can think of are not your good deeds but your loose lips. 

To develop the lips of a superman spouse you need to:

  • Start talking right
  • Say what you desire without being condescending instead of what you think her problem is
  • Mention your own faults as well. You are not that prim and proper. 
  • Any ‘I love you’ that you say after saying ‘don’t you think?’ has missed road. It has no effect what so ever even if she replies ‘I love you too’
  • Stop saying what you would not like to be told. She’s human like you
  • Call those things that be not as though they are – speak to her in the Queen way.

As a man, your love relationship will work when you have developed the lips of a superman spouse. Don’t worry, this is a long game, start practicing. Don’t beat yourself too much when your lips fail you, practice again until you finally develop this lip. 

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