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Coach Legend: 10 Steps You Must Take to Get Your Relationship to the Altar | Part 1
The 10 Steps You Must Take to Get Your Relationship to the Altar Part 1
In my early days as a relationship expert, one of the core topics I focused on teaching was how intending couples can avoid break-ups and get their relationship to the altar in the shortest time possible.
I have since grown and new knowledge and research have shown that what I shared then have become outdated and needed to be improved upon. This is why I am sharing with you today, 10 simple processes you need to go through that will land your relationship on the altar in the shortest possible time.
- Enjoy Your Single Status
So many people are too in a hurry to get into a relationship and eventually get married. Let me tell you for a fact: the moment you get married, things will never be the same again. There are many moments you would wish you were still single but alas it’s already too late.
Why not enjoy your single status right now? Live the life of your dreams. Travel places, read like there will never be such opportunity again, attend seminars and don’t forget to have fun.
This is a process you must go through or you should go through.
- Visualise the end-game
I don’t mean fantasize about how grand and romantic your wedding would be but visualise what the next 10, 20 and 40 years would be like in your love life.
Can you see clearly who your man or woman would be and how you would both be living when you are old? Who are the marriages you look upto? They can determine the sort of marriage you will have.
Stop day-dreaming about the wedding; that’s just one day, visualize and conceptualise the marriage. Create a Vision-Board of your dream home, place pictures of your model marriage and love life. Write out the values and characters you desire to see in your marriage, then, find an accompanying pictures which you can use on the True Love Vision Board.
- Meet Someone new
When people say I want to have a Relationship and it’s not forthcoming, I ask them a few questions and one of those question is ‘when was the last time you met someone new?’
If you will ever have a chance to finding your soul mate, it’s either going to be among existing friends or a someone you newly met. If you aren’t meeting someone one, your chances at love are limited especially if your existing friends aren’t finding you attractive.
Aside all these, your social game needs to be upped. Don’t be a social recluse, look for opportunities to meet new people even if you are in a relationship; that’s how to have a healthy esteem and social life.
- Build Friendship Before You Start Things
Friendship is knowing a person in and out, falling in love with their values because it aligns with yours and sharing a part of your life with someone else.
People jump into dating or relationship once they have some form of likeness for someone. This is one of the core reasons why your relationships haven’t been getting to the altar.
You need time to form friendship and bond. You need to discover yourself and get vulnerable with each other without having anything at stake.
When you can build quality friendship before a relationship starts, you can both weather any storm that arises against your relationship, except you both choose not to.
- Start a Purposeful Relationship
There are different types of relationships that people have without knowing that’s what they are practising. I will discuss that in another post.
Starting a love relationship is a good idea but take note. It is different from endless dating and also different from from living-in with a person.
A real purposeful relationship is the one you have with marriage as the end game. You are in a relationship because you both are certain of getting married to each other (and you probably know when).
Relationships get lost on the way and never make it to the altar because singles start purposeless relationships. They meet and try to see ‘if they will work’. Don’t do it. That’s called playing games with your emotions.
If your relationship will end on the altar, you have to be purposeful about your relationship. You have to know exactly where it’s headed and when it will get there.
Start with a date in mind. Anything outside that is a risk.
What you have just read is a Gabriel Olatunji-Legend’s thought and idea as a practicing online relationship coach and counselor. To get notifications about more of his free life changing teachings, subscribe below.