Navigating the dating seas is a not always smooth sailing because you’re looking for a life partner to sail with you on your relation-ship not just a passing fancy.
Sometimes, it’s okay to sit back and hope that your crush makes the first move, other times you may have to take matters into your own hands. This is where we come in; to assist with the navigating. Follow the simple steps below to ask your crush out on a date.
It’s Not Weird
Making the first move is not weird, trust me. This tip is more for the females here because ladies are often shy about making the first move.
While some people still abide by the idea that waiting for your crush to act first is the right approach, it really is an archaic (not to mention frustrating) custom. If you want to ask your crush out, go for it.
Making the first move doesn’t mean that you’re more interested or that they aren’t interested, it just puts you at the wheel of directing the relationship which is the best place to be in a moving relationship.
Be Confident
Confidence is so important for so many things in life, but it’s especially key when asking your crush out for the first time. If you approach your crush feeling self-conscious or awkward, your nerves are bound to rub off on them. They’ll feel like they can’t be themselves, which will only make you even more uncomfortable which is basically just setting yourself up for failure. If you approach them with confidence, however, you’ll seem like you know exactly what you’re doing, even if you’re totally lost and confused. Fake it till you make it is the motto, so make sure to put your best confident face on before approaching your crush.
Have a Plan
When someone asks you out without a plan, it’s annoying and tiresome, and it kind of makes it seem like they don’t want to put any real effort into spending time with you. If you’re going to ask your crush out, it’s best to have at least a semblance of a plan in place beforehand. You can leave a few things open and get their opinion, but spending time planning out an activity for the two of you to do together will make the date much more comfortable. Plus, it will show them that you’re actually interested in spending valuable time with them, which will only be a positive thing in the long run.
Pick Something They Want to Do
While putting a plan for your date in place, it’s also important to pick an activity that your crush would actually want to do. Planning the date strictly around your own interests and preferences will make your crush feel like you don’t know them at all or b) you just don’t care about what they like. On the other hand, picking an activity that you know they’ll enjoy will show that you pay attention to the things they’re interested in, will increase their likelihood of saying yes and will put them at ease on the actual date, making it much easier for the two of you to enjoy your time together.
Be Casual
Grand romantic gestures are nice in theory and in movies but often pretty creepy in person especially for a first date. Even if you’ve been crushing on this person forever and you really just want to pour out all your pent-up emotions, this is the first time you’ll truly be hanging out with your crush in a romantic context, so it’s best to play it cool. That means no confessions of your love for them, no elaborate gestures and absolutely no expectations that a single date automatically puts the two of you in a relationship. Give your romance time and space to grow by keeping your first date request casual. A simple text or a casual in-person invite will do, and it will save your pride if they happen to say no.
Just Do It
At a certain point, all the planning in the world isn’t going to help you ask someone out if you can’t bring yourself to pop the question. Put in the necessary preparation, chat about every last detail with your girlfriends and then take a note from Nike and just do it. After all, the worst they can do is say no, and freaking out about it or continuing to delay it probably isn’t going to change their answer. It’s better to just get it over with—at least you’ll know where you stand with them and you can stop worrying about it.
Prepare for the Worst
When it comes to asking out your crush, the best thing you can do is expect the best, but prepare for the worst. If you refuse to acknowledge the fact that your crush might turn you down, you’re going to be totally devastated if that does happen. You shouldn’t expect them to say no—after all, you’re an awesome person with tons of great qualities to offer them—but you should be prepared for it. That way, you can handle it with grace in the moment instead of becoming upset or embarrassed. And remember: rejection is not the worst thing in the world. It’s something you can learn from, and it’ll teach you what to do differently if you ever find yourself in this situation again.
IN CONCLUSION
These tips are just to help you know which way to go not to get you to your destination. You’ll have to charm them yourself. We’ve gotten you to the party, now let’s see if you can dance. Love and light, Wonder.
