People normally say that it is normal for a man to cheat, they say, ‘men will be men’ so as a lady, you have decided to live with that mindset. To accept whatever comes your way because you have zeroed your ‘perfect boyfriend’ fantasy. You have lowered your standards, for who? Him? Men?
Questions
Do you cheat? Are you ready to give in your 100? Are you willing to be honest? If yes, why settle for someone with a different mindset? Why settle for a 45? Why go through all the emotional pain because a certain immature guy says it’s in the nature of men to cheat?
There’s nothing like it’s a normal thing. Men were not built that way, they made it that way so they could go scot-free. Everybody gets tempted because the person you are in a relationship with Is not the most beautiful or the lady with the most amazing body. You just have to know that there is a thing called ‘contentment’.
The Thing Called Contentment
Contentment is a state of happiness and satisfaction. Satisfaction in the sense that you might not have it all but you are happy. Now when you are content, it’s easy to fight temptation. You are ok with your partner, if a beautiful lady passes you, it’s ok to look. You can’t take the fact that she’s beautiful and sometimes you might find yourself staring lustfully. These are temptations. If you keep saying she’s attractive so I had to cheat then you’ll end up sleeping with a lot of women. A man like that doesn’t deserve love. He doesn’t deserve loyalty. You can’t use the word ‘it is in man’s nature to cheat’ and then expect loyalty from the next gender. How does that make any sense? Return the energy they give. Walkaway.
No one is born content. It is a virtue you get through practice. Practice contentment and stop being greedy. I know people will say it’s possible for a man to cheat on multiple women and still love his wife or partner but it is also possible to find a man that does not cheat. Don’t be desperate, take your time and think; what do I want, is she the kind of person I want to spread the rest of my life with? Is he perfect for me and do our differences compliment us? You need to understand that at the end of the day, after whatever happens, you’ll be the only one fighting for yourself and your happiness. Good men are out there, Pray and take your time.
You’ll be fine eventually
Xoxo❤️ Your concerned friend
