We all love validation. We like to be cocksure that our better half is constantly in love with us over and over again. But when you catch a glimpse of disinterest from him, it’s okay. It is possible that he is stressed, hungry or just not in the mood. 

That regularly disappears after a few hours. 

However, if it doesn’t, then my dear, that could be a pointer to a problem: he is losing interest in you.

And here is why.

1. You’ve become too heavy on his pocket

No jokes. Relayed experience has it that men are often turned off by a woman who asks for too much too often. 

The formula to this fact is that the heavier you are in his pocket the lighter you get in his heart. 

Cut him some slack. Take on some of the bills for as little as a few days. Buy him gifts with your own money. Surprise him by buying the month’s grocery.

If this is the cause of his reduced interest in you, do this and see how fast everything gets better with you two.

2. You’ve become too mechanical

If you are light on his pocket and he is still losing interest in you, then maybe that’s because you’ve become like a machine -you operate the same way ALL THE TIME.

Men love novelty, good change and innovation in relationships more than they care to acknowledge. They like to look forward to ‘what’s new’. And that helps fuel their love for their woman.

Do you send the same text over and over again? Do you use the same pattern of courtesy all over? You know what it is you’ve done the same way since you met. It is time to change that. 

Spice. Things. Up.

3. You’re a compulsive attention seeker

No matter how much he loves you at the beginning, that will diminish the more you indulge in attention seeking. While it’s cool and funny to act childish with him and all that stuff, you’ve got to tone down how much you call him, text him, impress on him to take you out, etc.

This is best represented by the Chinese proverb wujibifan: too much of good stuff is bad stuff.

Be less clingy and less compulsive with your attention seeking.

4. You’ve become complacent

Because he loves you does not mean you should wear your wrapper/pyjamas through the house all day long. No. That’s a pretty potent way of telling him ‘hey darling, the door and windows are out there. And you don’t want him going out to gawk at other attractive women.

There’s a basic principle to turning this table around: look your best for him and him alone as much as possible. 

Men are psyched by what they see. You don’t want him seeing you as some old village middle-aged woman going to the stream, all day. You don’t want that.

5. He has found someone else

This is bitter, but it is true. If after all four tips, he still is disinterested, then possibly he has found someone else. 

However, chances are that he doesn’t love the new lady. He’s just a lost soul enthralled by the glitters of new stars. Up your game in the house: get a new set of amorous wears, take care of your body, make your home a heaven of divine aroma -food and good perfumes- and every other thing in between. Now watch how he comes dancing back to your arms.

Thank me later!

Sayonara!