Many feelings connect human beings in their various relationships and even couples in marriages. Embarrassment is one of these feelings, but this can only happen when the partners are willing to show their embarrassing side to each other.
No one makes it through life without feeling awkward and self-conscious at times, yet we do our best to hide our humiliation from others. This is because we want to fit in and fear that we won’t be accepted as members of the tribe.
The tribe may be as small as a couple. It could even be you and your partner; we want the person we’re in love with to approve of our behaviour. Relationship problems begin to occur when we are too busy with showing an ‘ideal image of ourselves rather than bonding with our beloved as we are.
Although embarrassment can be mortifying, revealing the vulnerable side that makes us more lovable to our partner. It shows them that you trust them enough to be yourself in their presence.
Embarrassment reveals you’re human, and when you think you are ready to show that side to the one you love, it can help your relationship become more profound and more substantial.
Below are five common relationship problems and issues people often find too embarrassing to discuss, but that can ultimately lead you to fall even more deeply in love with each other as soon as you open up:
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Deeply hidden fears.
The fears we’re speaking of are the deep fears that relate to your character and personality. These are fears that have become a part of us, and we may not even be aware of them.
Some of these fears are being unworthy, being unable to provide for yourself, feeling empty inside, feeling incompetent or not enough.
You shouldn’t be embarrassed, though; your partner likely also has a basic fear that they are embarrassed by, so you are not alone.
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Family Issues
For children, issues going on in the family are an extension of who they are. Many adults grow up believing that their family reflects on who they are. Yes, your family shapes you, but they are separate from you.
It is a sign of health when you can talk about your family as separate from you with clear boundaries. Your partner also finds it easier to understand you. Apart from your family secrets, you might also have some buried deep down. If you are willing to open up to your partner about them, you’ll discover you’re just human and very normal.
The truth is that most of the experiences we all go through are pretty standard.
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Future Dreams and Goals
If you’re not the type to overshare, sharing your goals and dreams with anyone is a compassionate and intimate act for you. When people react in a way that’s not showing full support after you share, it can cause you to doubt yourself.
If you don’t even doubt yourself, the lack of support will cause you to realize that they are not the one for you.
However, you have to do it to take a step forward. You may find out you both don’t match and part ways or your relationship will grow stronger because your partner is not just supportive, but the two of you are like-minded and are on the same page with your goals and dreams.
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Financial troubles.
Your finance is your matter. However, if you have chosen to share your life with someone, you should be able to discuss your finance. Your lifestyle and any financial burdens come up with those that are close to you.
If your financial condition causes you embarrassment, try not to be so identified with it. Plus, you can always change it. If the person you’re in a relationship with judges you because of your financial circumstances, it’s only a reflection of your self-judgment.
Whenever you start a statement with “This is embarrassing for me to share with you,” it causes the other person to have more compassion and react more gently. Because you are opening up and being vulnerable, you gain strength and an ally.
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Unconventional sexual fantasies.
Some of our sexual fantasies are difficult to share with our partners. Taking the bold step to share them can help you bond even if your partner doesn’t share the same fantasy. When your partner truly loves you and wants you to be happy, they will enjoy knowing what turns you on. You being turned on will turn them on.
There’s no law binding you to share your sexual fantasies, but if you do, it could open a whole new connection between the two of you.
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When you’re in a relationship with a partner you trust, discussing embarrassing issues will help you bond better and more closely. The playing field can be more level when both of you are sharing awkward issues.
In the end, sharing your embarrassment is a part of reaching any goal, including a loving relationship.
