4 Ways You Can Find Love When You JAPA

Everybody wants to JAPA out of the country but nobody really talks about how difficult it is to find love in the diaspora. How frustrating and how lonely it can get.

It’s a reality that sets in for most people the moment they get there.

Incase you didn’t already know, finding love outside of your country can be a really tough one for so many reasons. It can take a lot of getting used to and sometimes you’re so fixated on being in the new country that you do not even make out the time for love.

I know it can be hard meeting new love interests in the diaspora, but there are specific and deliberate actions you can take to make the process of finding love an easier one.

These are 4 Major Ways You Can Find Love When You Japa

Leave Your Space

When I say leave your space, I don’t just mean your physical space. You have to be intentional about meeting new people. As an introvert, it might even be a lot tougher to find love which is why you have to find ways to get yourself out of your home. Accept invitations to cookouts and parties, go for fun events, and get together with friends over a drink. You just have to make sure you’re regularly leaving your space. You can’t be too comfortable sitting at home or having only a work routine.

If you cannot do parties or large activities as a person with a more shy and introverted personality, then go on long walks, hikes and run regularly. Register in a gym and make sure you leave the house every morning to jog. That is a great way to meet new people and connect with them.

You have to be consistently stepping out. Every single time you leave your home or space, there is a heightened chance of meeting a potential love interest. Staying at home does nothing for you except give you more room to think about how miserable you might be feeling about being lonely.

Make Use Of Dating Apps

This is a top choice for you if you’re fiercely  searching for love. Even people based in their home country still make use of dating apps, this means it is even more essential for you. Dating Apps are a way great way to meet new people and you can do all this by just sitting on your side or lying on your bed and swiping. I mean why go out and spend precious money, time and energy in the club only to maybe link up with one or two people when you’re promised even more on a Dating App?

You are exposed to different people and you can tweak your settings in some dating apps to show you people who live much farther from you.

There are so many great dating apps out there that you can use, The Tinder App being on the top of the list.

There is no nationality that you’re searching for that you cannot find on tinder, just keep swiping to get exposed to so a variety of options. Dating Apps also help you easily find people close to you with similar interests who would love to meet up and connect. This fixes the physical distance barrier and you’re given more opportunities of having a more stable relationship with the person you pick if everything works out.

If you’re in the diaspora and you’ve not tapped into the dating app space to help you find love, then this is the sign that you should.

Familiarize Yourself With The Local Dating Culture

Cultures differ a lot from each other and there are different ways things are done in different places. Most places already have an existing guideline and system in which they operate and you as a newbie there have to learn to adapt and adjust to it. The same goes for finding love or dating.

There are different ways to express interest in someone from different countries and it is your responsibility to learn it all. You don’t want to blindly use the dating methods you are conversant with back in your home country in another home country. If you have to adjust, then, by all means, do. Or better still explain your difficulties to the person of interest and hope you can reach a sort of compromise with them.

You have to research and survey your audience the moment you JAPA because it will influence most of your decisions in the future.

If you do not familiarize yourself with the dating culture in the new country that you’re in, you risk making mistakes and you will end up feeling more miserable and alone.

If you’re not quite sure how to go about the research concerning a country’s dating future, then ask questions. You can be honest to the person of interest and let them in on your feelings and how much of a new experience it is for you. This reduces the chances of them being offended when you make a mistake or go against their dating culture because they are aware that you are not completely familiar with it.

Reduce Your expectation

Just breathe. And relax. Those high expectations you have of what you want in a person physically and otherwise, you need to bundle it in a box and keep it aside in your closet for a while. This is not the time to be picky about your options because they are quite limited.

You don’t have to go with someone that ticks all the boxes, As long as they’re ticking some of the major boxes for you in terms of relationship, then you should compromise.

It’s understandable to want an ideal partner that has similar values to you but you also have to be willing to let go of some of those ideals as long as letting go of them will not cost you your sanity or take a large piece of your life away.

Be very open-minded, have the readiness and willingness to explore and most importantly get out from the bubble of negativity and scarcity mindset.

With these 4 tips in place, you’re on the right path to finding your love even whilst you’re in the diaspora.