Cheating in a relationship is one of the core reasons that couples break up.
What is Cheating In a relationship?
Cheating in a relationship is a deliberate act to be unfaithful to your partner. It can be both physical or emotional. A relationship is grounded in unspoken rules, when those rules are broken, it can be difficult to patch it back together.
Being faithful to one’s partner is one of the unspoken rules of most relationships, except of course, you’re in an open relationship and already established the specific rules that resonate with your particular relationship.
The most popular question that people ask when they get cheated on is “Why?”
It’s very normal to want to know the reasons your partner decided to become unfaithful to you. You might even find yourself battling with feelings of inadequacy.
I’m here to let you know that your partner cheating on you has zero to do with you and has everything to do with them. It’s a choice that they made and you cannot blame yourself for it.
These are the core reasons your partner is cheating on you
You might not want to admit it but the truth is your partner can love you but still find themselves drawn to others.
Sexual desires have nothing to do with a person’s love for you.
Your partner could still be invested in your relationship but still find themselves sexually attracted to others.
They can also act on their sexual desires. Their inability to control their sexual urges has nothing to do with your desirability.
Sometimes, it can be a physical attraction for your partner and nothing more.
Low self esteem
A partner might feel unattractive after a while or get bored of you and need a boost of self esteem.
It’s normal for a relationship to feel monotonous for people after a long period of time. They might believe that cheating will bring an excitement that will add color to their boring life and help in boosting their self esteem.
Your partner might be angry at you or at a particular situation they’re currently going through. People react and cope differently to things. Cheating on you could be their twisted way of getting back at you for a grievance they still hold against you.
Your partner might feel neglected and believe that you do not find them attractive enough.
Sometimes couples can get lost in life’s realities and tune each other out.
Cheating can be a cry from attention from your partner to get themselves in your radar again.
They want to be noticed by you and they can to do this by being unfaithful.
There are some situations that are entirely unplanned and spiral quickly out of control before anyone can get a grip on them.
Sometimes, cheating is not planned or premeditated. It can just “happen” regardless of how much people want to deny it.
It’s possible that your partner got lost in a situation, and things progressed quickly. Situations like alcohol induced state, an unplanned intimate setting or an emotional moment can prompt your partner to cheat.
Remember, none of these reasons given excuses cheating. It is still a deliberate choice made and you should never take the blame for someone else’s negative actions.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide if you’re willing to put it up with a cheating partner or give them another chance.
Are they willing to change? Do you deserve it? Do you deserve more than they’re giving? Are you okay with their love alone? Do you desire respect?
All these are questions you need to ask yourself to help you make a decision regarding your cheating partner.
At the end of the day, you have to chose yourself first and take an action that will be beneficial to you not just short term but in the long run.